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What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« on: December 10, 2013, 04:28:55 pm »


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When Argentinian filmmaker Paula Schargodsky found herself 35, single and accidentally having slept through her last uncoupled friend’s wedding, she knew there was something “she didn’t want to face.” As the only single one left in her circle, she decided to make a documentary film about the “questions [she was struggling] to answer” about the expiration date on female freedom. Schargodsky used “systematically kept” footage of her “love stories and breakups,” her “friends with their boyfriends, then husbands, then pregnant bellies” from the last 10 years to explore the question: “Can social mandates be disregarded, or is my extended youth finally coming to its end?”

To answer her questions, Schargodsky took a brutally honest look at her “gypsy lifestyle” and her past relationships — the love-at-first-sights of her twentis and the guy-she-should-have-married in her thirties — and came to a profound conclusion about self-love:


“I still don’t know how to resolve this equation, but at least I learned a few things about myself: I don’t want those intense, impossible relationship of my 20s, nor do I want a perfect husband behind a white picket fence, and I definitely don’t plan to spend my life alone. Now I realize that everything I was looking for was much closer than I thought. Whether it’s with someone or alone, in those glimpses when you love and accept yourself totally, the world around you changes. In the end, *happiness is a choice.”


Not to minimize an empowering realization such as that — it stands on its own — but there is an epilogue to her story. Schargodsky met someone right after she finished filming her piece. “He is imperfect, and I love him. This time I realize I can live with unanswered questions, and that’s fine,” she writes.


[New York Times]





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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #1 on: December 10, 2013, 05:19:58 pm »
At 35, 50% of me wants to get a hot 18-year old girlfriend.

The other 50% wants to get filthy rich...

...so that I can get a hot 18-year old girlfriend... ;D
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #2 on: December 10, 2013, 07:50:08 pm »
Quote from: d_sinner78 on December 10, 2013, 05:19:58 pm
At 35, 50% of me wants to get a hot 18-year old girlfriend.

The other 50% wants to get filthy rich...

...so that I can get a hot 18-year old girlfriend... ;D


hahaha.
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #3 on: December 10, 2013, 08:18:08 pm »
Quote from: d_sinner78 on December 10, 2013, 05:19:58 pm
At 35, 50% of me wants to get a hot 18-year old girlfriend.

The other 50% wants to get filthy rich...

...so that I can get a hot 18-year old girlfriend... ;D

best comment eveeeerr..  :applause :applause :applause
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #4 on: December 10, 2013, 08:38:31 pm »
Thanks for the share. Ms. FD di po ko makapagsend ng PM sayo? I need your help
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #5 on: December 10, 2013, 11:01:58 pm »
Quote from: icecoldchiq on December 10, 2013, 08:38:31 pm
Thanks for the share. Ms. FD di po ko makapagsend ng PM sayo? I need your help



shizzle, I just added you sa skype na sis ICC , will try to catch up with you during my breaks po (6-7:30pm manila time) 


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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #6 on: December 11, 2013, 06:57:47 am »
Oh gosh I just missed you. I was still asleep kanina. I'll catch up with you tomorrow same time. Thanks and take care :)
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #7 on: December 29, 2013, 11:48:20 am »
65% of me wants to get married, to have a children
35% of me wants to be free... hahaha
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #8 on: December 29, 2013, 09:38:50 pm »
Quote from: Eena on December 29, 2013, 11:48:20 am
65% of me wants to get married, to have a children
35% of me wants to be free... hahaha

how old are you na po ba Eena?
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #9 on: January 01, 2014, 09:57:38 am »
Quote from: kenji_kulet on December 29, 2013, 09:38:50 pm
how old are you na po ba Eena?


I'm 27 po Kenji
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #10 on: January 01, 2014, 03:32:41 pm »
Quote from: Eena on January 01, 2014, 09:57:38 am

I'm 27 po Kenji

akala ko your older than 30
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #11 on: January 02, 2014, 02:22:40 am »
Quote from: kenji_kulet on January 01, 2014, 03:32:41 pm
akala ko your older than 30


hahaha.. napareact lang kasi I'm not getting any younger na din eh :D
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #12 on: January 02, 2014, 03:26:19 am »
Quote from: Eena on January 02, 2014, 02:22:40 am

hahaha.. napareact lang kasi I'm not getting any younger na din eh :D

mind if i ask your gender? its ok we all feel old hahaha
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #13 on: January 02, 2014, 10:14:30 am »
Quote from: kenji_kulet on January 02, 2014, 03:26:19 am
mind if i ask your gender? its ok we all feel old hahaha

im a woman po ^_^
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #14 on: January 02, 2014, 02:58:17 pm »
Quote from: Eena on January 02, 2014, 10:14:30 am
im a woman po ^_^

wow! another spy girl :)
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #15 on: January 06, 2014, 05:04:32 am »
@KENJI: STYYYYYLLLLLLEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!! hahaha
@sis FD: don't worry sis, i know you're not alone in this forum. hehehe
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #16 on: January 06, 2014, 07:02:59 am »
Quote from: Eena on December 29, 2013, 11:48:20 am
65% of me wants to get married, to have a children
35% of me wants to be free... hahaha

baka ako na hinahanap mo, magkaedad tayo at pareho ng nararamdaman ::laffman
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #17 on: January 06, 2014, 07:36:41 am »
Quote from: Eena on January 02, 2014, 02:22:40 am

hahaha.. napareact lang kasi I'm not getting any younger na din eh :D

hala! matanda na pala yung 27??? huhuhu
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Re: What it's really like to be '35 and Single' ...
« Reply #18 on: January 06, 2014, 07:53:40 am »
Quote from: typeone on January 06, 2014, 05:04:32 am
@KENJI: STYYYYYLLLLLLEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!! hahaha

shhhhhh.... ::secret im doin recon act like im not checking her out  ::lmao
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