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Especially dedicated to All Modern Man ::flowers
One day a man went to visit a doctor who was famous for his radical healing cures.'What is your problem?'asked the
doctor.'I am completely depressed,'said the man.After a brief consultation,the doctor said,'I will not give you tablets for
your depression.The circus is in town this weekend and I want you to go see the great clown,Grimaldi.'The man bowed his
head and said ,'My dear doctor,I am grimaldi.'
We tend to fake our happiness when we are low,such is our shame of unhappiness.We are also keen to keep up
appearances,to put on a brave face,a stiff upper lip,a mask and a smile,for,like us,society does not tolerate
unhappiness well.As the poem goes,'Laugh and the world laughs with you;Weep and you weep alone.'
It is extremely rare for people to admit publicly to being sad,depressed,nervous,angry,jealous or unhappy - the shame
of it would be too much.From an early age (especially men)we have learned to hide and be dishonest about our
emotions,for fear of judgment and guilt.Common 'you should be ashamed of yourself' messages include :
- big boys don't cry
- 'take that look of your face.'
- 'How dare you...'
- 'don't be a cry baby.'
- 'pull yourself together.'
So we have learned to be secretive.We hide our feelings.We suppress our emotions.suppression,denial,rationalisation
and other defences any seem to work @ first,but they soon fail,for what feel like peace was only avoidance.
being secretive about your emotions does not heal your pain,it exacerbates it. For
90% of any pain comes from trying to keep the pain secret.
You cannot keep a secret and let it go.By being dishonest about your pain,you stay in pain.
Dishonesty may appear to help you to get through your day,but it will always leave you in pain at night.
Healing is a process of Truth,and you cannot get truth via dishonesty.
Dishonesty is at it best,a control tactic;it is not a medicine.It cannot give you Peace.
You cannot heal in secret.You must be prepared to tell the whole truth to someone,to God,love ones.
Secrecy only adds to your pain,For
Secrecy feeds shame!
Honesty lets the truth out,and the Truth eventually dispell all shame.
By being Honest about your most private self - judgments,the pain you feel begins to melt almost immediately;
By being open about your shame,the Agony is shared and quickly begins to fade;and by being truthful about
your fears,their tight,fixed grip instantly begins to loosen.
by being Honest,you discover you are no longer alone,and help is now at hand.
The very reasons i dedicate this post for guys/men is knowing how difficult it is to share your feelings.
Good communication skills were not part of your description.But Times have changed and we have no choice
but to Change with them.New skills must be Learned.A new awareness is Required.
To remain masculine and at the same time being able to express that feeling and stop thinking if
you express feelings you become a 'sissy' or a 'gay'
"A MODERN MAN IS REQUIRED TO BE A WARRIOR BUT NOW MUST DEFEND HIMSELF W/O RETALIATING BUT BY BEING MORE EXPRESSIVE."
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wala bang "Like" botton?? :) finger4u
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wala bang "Like" botton?? :) finger4u
tenkyut po! oks na po kahit 1 comment para malaman ko lang po na spy men are NOT Neanderthal naman ;)
@ para syu tekko08 :-* homo sapiens ka din like me! ;D toast::
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does this mean Grimaldi the clown wont be having an act any time soon?? ;) anyways
cguro nature na sa mga boys na itago ang mga hinanakit sa buhay.. kasi nga we see tears as a sign of weakness.. ewan ko kung na impluwensya lng kami og talagang naka program na sa utak namin yan..
this is a good eye opener sa misconception na ito..
thanks ms daza..
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by the way.. I love the avatar.. *spank..
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does this mean Grimaldi the clown wont be having an act any time soon?? ;) anyways
cguro nature na sa mga boys na itago ang mga hinanakit sa buhay.. kasi nga we see tears as a sign of weakness.. ewan ko kung na impluwensya lng kami og talagang naka program na sa utak namin yan..
this is a good eye opener sa misconception na ito..
thanks ms daza..
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by the way.. I love the avatar.. *spank..
For centuries, parents encourage boys to control their emotions.
Boys are taught that it isn't manly to feel strong emotions,not only those emotions considered "weak"
such as Fear or Sadness,but even passion need,and intense Love.
Men are pulled by habits passed down from generation to generation and are conditioned by society,which
teach them values that close them off to intimacy.
(sad to think that statistics claim more men are prone to mental illness and commit suicide. )
anyways,the good news is just keep an open mind and operate on 21st century.
The Inability To Deal with Emotions Is Not a Guy Characteristic;IT'S AN IMMATURE GUY CHARACTERISTIC! ;)
@ bro xeo hands off my butt please! :P ;D toast:: thanks sa comment po :-*
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salamat ng marami dito.just when i need it. ;)
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salamat ng marami dito.just when i need it. ;)
thanks also for having time to read bro toast:: sayasaya::
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this I like ... truly an eye opener, thanks for this ::flowers
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this I like ... truly an eye opener, thanks for this ::flowers
thanks din po sa rose ;) toast::
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ms daza;a woman in every mans dream,never failed to encourage us,
boost our ego when it's bruised,
bring back when you're down...
a beautiful woman indeed...
a million thanks for all those advise that you've shared... ::flowers
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ms daza;a woman in every mans dream,never failed to encourage us,
boost our ego when it's bruised,
bring back when you're down...
a beautiful woman indeed...
a million thanks for all those advise that you've shared... ::flowers
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thanks Krank ! :-* the feeling is mutual,Espiya never cease to Inspires me too ::flowers
I'm OK --- You All been WONDERFUL! toast::
to up the Topic :
"Emotions are not gender based.Our ability to feel our emotion is not a gender difference.Instead , this ability is greatly influenced by our parents,society and early childhood experience."