Topic: Benefits of Quitting PORN [expert]

[FerminaDaza]

Howdy E.Republic? - what a topic to start and be back to reporting 

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/compulsion-solutions/6-things-get-better-after-quitting-porn

I was addicted to porn. Are you?

Six months ago, my entire day revolved around porn. It was ruining my relationship. It was getting in the way of my goals and plans. It just had to stop, so I embarked upon a path to give up porn. I called Compulsion Solutions because I decided it was time to grow up. Now I can undoubtedly say life is better.

Are you a porn addict? Are you watching porn to the detriment of your relationship? Here are six things in your life that get better after you quit porn.


1. You suddenly have more time in your day.

Giving up porn can give you back the time that you've been missing.  When I was using, I would find myself watching porn for hours at a time. Add it all up over a week and I had a part-time job watching porn. The only thing it paid me was shame and regret. Things were always getting done at the last minute; I was often late for work or meeting with friends and my apartment was always a mess. Take porn out of the equation and suddenly I had a huge chunk of time that I could put toward all those things I wanted to accomplish. The laundry, dishes and vacuuming all got done in a day. I was able to concentrate on improving myself instead of hurting myself. The best part is all the new skills, goals and accomplishments suddenly become your focus throughout your day instead of videos of naked people. You have to hide your porn use, but your new job, skills, car, girlfriend etc; those are all things you get to be proud of. Which brings me to number two…

2. You start to like yourself and so do other people.

This all ties into the new skills and hobbies you develop. The most amazing writer, David Wong of Cracked.com, said it best, "you can't bullshit yourself into being happy." If by the end up the day, all you've accomplished is a few deposits into the spank bank and you look around to see that your place is still a disaster, what is there to feel happy about? Well, that's the problem. Human beings generate happiness from accomplishments, even if it's just small accomplishments. Instead of letting mess in your room accumulate, clean it up. From there, you can carry that effort into other things that make you happy. Productive members of society just get more respect and admiration from people because they're just more fun to be around. You learn that you didn't need to win a gold medal, have lots of money or be a movie star for people to like you. You just had to accomplish a few small things to become the person that people wanted to be around. If you just attempt to make an effort it is usually enough to make you feel that much better about yourself.


3. Sex starts to feel real again.

 As Gary Wilson of yourbrainonporn.com says, "sex is not the same thing as porn." It's the same way that playing "Call of Duty" on Xbox isn't the same thing as going to war in Afghanistan. When I was using, I would look forward to porn but I would dread sex. Sex with my girlfriend felt like a chore. It wasn't her fault. I would avoid sex because I had trained my brain to turn to porn for arousal. So, when it came time to satisfy my girlfriend, it just emphasized the distance I had created between us. It didn't happen right away but after a short time, I started to desire her touch again. I didn't have to distance myself from intimacy or passion. Porn doesn't have those things. Porn lets you dismiss it when you notice a small imperfection and move on to the next video. It creates a desire for an unrealistic sex life that would never, ever satisfy anyone. It is also something that I'd project onto myself. I'd think I'd have to be built or hung to be desired in such a way.


4. You finally stop lying.

Living with a porn addiction was like having a double life. I constantly worried about being caught again by my girlfriend. I'd obsess about checking to make sure my history was erased and that my cookies were deleted. No matter how many times I would check, I still felt paranoid that I might have left a bread crumb somewhere. I was constantly worried that if I was caught again my relationship would end. My girlfriend would confront me on things I couldn't explain. She'd always suspect something and I'd get mad at her for not trusting me, which was completely stupid because I wasn't trustworthy. When you live a lie for long enough, you start to convince yourself of it as well and the more lies you tell, you can't bring yourself to tell the truth about anything. To overcome this, I had to come clean about my addiction and deceptions to my girlfriend. It was incredibly painful but after six months, I can definitely say that it was worth it. I started to tell the truth knowing that my girlfriend could have left me for it but it turned out that all she ever really wanted was honesty.

5. You understand what it means to be in control.

We all know that addictions are not limited to porn or sex. The human mind is an amazing thing and it can turn almost anything into a drug. A&E has a show dedicated to people with addictions from everything from alcohol and heroin to food and shopping. Once I dropped the porn from my daily routine, my brain still wanted the dopamine it was used to. I understand that it is incredibly easy to fall back into the same habit with a whole new fix. But when you apply what you learned from your addiction to other aspects of your life, it helps you make the best choices. If there is one thing I've learned from this journey, it's that you're an adult now and if you make bad choices, no one is going to stop you. Well, you're all grown up now. Are you going to eat McDonald's every day? Are you going to rack up your credit cards until you're bankrupt? Are you going to drink until you throw up each night? If you do, no one will stop you.

6. Things seem possible again.

When I was using porn, it was my crutch. If I had a bad day, I watched porn. If I had a fight with my girlfriend, I watched porn. If I was bored, I watched porn. I wanted an excuse to watch porn so I'd look for reasons to feel tired, stressed and overwhelmed. Once I gave up porn, after a while, I gained the perspective that life really isn't that bad. Yes, bad things do happen. Things can be tough but when I'm looking for a crutch every time things don't go my way, then I see how I'm missing out on the good things. I've been without porn for six months and I now work hard at my job and school and have acquired many more useful skills that I'm proud of. Now, I'm the type of person people want to have around; I love intimacy and sex with my girlfriend again; I'm up front and honest; andI do my best to control myself and make the right decisions. I truly believe that life will only continue to get better from here and it can be the same way for you. If you find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed as you begin to quit your addiction, know that the six steps I mentioned is what you have to look forward to. Recognize that there will be slip ups, problems and road blocks along the way but you're trading a bunch of pixels of naked people on a computer monitor for a real life with happiness, success and freedom. Never forget that.



THOUGHTS?

adek ka ba sa PORN bro?

 

[Extra Rice]

4. You finally stop lying.

Nice benefit huh... 

[eyecool_04]

1. You suddenly have more time in your day.

tama...

[tiberionx]

i managed to quit smoking but i dont think i can quit porn 

[ayantot]

I stopped watching porn.. but not sex scandals..

[remark]

mukhang mahirap ata to ah..part na kasi ng everyday life.haha

[budotukmol]

personal experince mo to mam fd?

[liquid metal]

hmm...don't you find it ironic? an anti-porn thread on espiya.net.

[CokeZero]

hmm...don't you find it ironic? an anti-porn thread on espiya.net.

topic lang siguro to. di ako maniniwala mag quit na si fd nyan  peace!

[tekko08]

this i cannot..

[marcusius]

3. Sex starts to feel real again.

What sex?!?   

[Type_One]

I stopped watching porn.. but not sex scandals..

Hehe, same here.
Anyway, hey, some people can be all of that but can still keep Porn a part of life, hehe

[xeoxander01]

nope doesn't make sense.. 

<opens youjizz on another tab.>

[FerminaDaza]

calm your tits guys---that's him telling his story about his PORN ADDICTION po.

@budotukmol, tukmol naman-- sensual lang ako-and i just giggles when i see nekkid guy 

watch moderately  make your life MORE than your erection! TOINKSSS

[waldner]

Porn addiction like any other addictions (gambling, sex, drugs and rock and roll, etc.) materializes when it is done on a regular/continuous basis. Our mind will be clouded to the point that our conscious mind will be overcome by our subconscious and could no longer differentiate whether such act is within the ambit of "normal" or not.

I am not against watching porn since it has some positive aspects to it. Those who committed the crime of acts of lasciviousness or even rape are usually those persons who can't control their sexual urges and therefore has a weak mind frame. If the sex urge is apparent, by watching porn and releasing the tension afterwards will tend to shun our mind from committing rape or acts of lasciviousness as it will help you return to your proper senses.

[FerminaDaza]

I am not against watching porn since it has some positive aspects to it.

honga bro, sabe nga ng science fap your depression away!  but then they also said- PORN make your brain SICK and hungry for more PORN 

[waldner]

That will depend on the mental capacity of the viewer. 

[FerminaDaza]

That will depend on the mental capacity of the viewer. 

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