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Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« on: June 30, 2011, 12:10:45 pm »
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anyway, bago mo po sana mamis-interpret tong message ko, gusto ko sana humingi ng paumanhin, nakainom po kasi ako ngayon at kubng may masabi man akong ndi maganda ,ipagpaumanhin mo poh...

una,salamat po

pangalawa, pakitago po yung pagkatao ko para sa advice na hihingin ko..





isa akong lalake, ndi gwapo pero may magandang asawa at maganda at gwapong anak.

mula pagkabata,natroma ako at nawala "self-confidence ko, feeling ko,panget ako,feelong pinagtatawanan ako at feeling ko, bobo ako. pero as i sed,maganda po tlga asawa ko at maputi,sobrang bait.wala akong masabi. I proved to my self na ndi rin anman ako bobo kasi sa sistema ng trabaho, ako yung sinasabio ng mga ka-work na mas maayos...

ewan ko ba,kahit may asawa na ko at may mga anak, may pagkababaero tlga sa dugo kahit na feeling ko sa sarili ko eh panget ako.kapag nirereject ako ng girl,sobrang lungkot...pag dating sa pag-aaply sa trabaho,feeling wala ako sa standard pero dito sa kasalukuyang trabaho,madami nagsasai na dapat ako na lang ang lider ng warehouse...ewan ko ma'am pero until now ndi lang ako down to earth, feeling ko ako ang pibnakamababang uri ng nilalang.. ano ba dapat na maging mind set ko para mabago tong naging troma ko mula pagkabata?




@ Espiya Republic,i already sent my reply through pm but still believe ~ you ,all
can encourage him more pa po...medyo vague at bitin tyu sa story nya ,
so Focus na lang po tyu in giving him a lot of insights on how to manage or deal with Trauma or
a painful past (self-confidence,self-esteem ?)


Later na po me mag bigay ng inputs ko regarding trauma or painful past.
am still @ work :)


Thanks in advance guys !  finger4u    sayasaya::


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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #1 on: June 30, 2011, 01:45:32 pm »
ano daw un traumatic experience nya?
Rom 1:23  At pinalitan nila ang kaluwalhatian ng Dios na hindi nasisira, ng isang katulad ng larawan ng tao na nasisira, at ng mga ibon, at ng mga hayop na may apat na paa, at ng mga nagsisigapang.

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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #2 on: June 30, 2011, 07:24:08 pm »

baka naman yung traumatic experience e sa muka nia..
paano nia iisipin na gwapo sya sa kabila ng katotohanan na ndi naman..
ahehe.. joke..

eto serious na kahet parang kwentong lasing tong kwento mo..
naniniwala ako na kahet panget nakakapag asawa ng maganda..
pero sa anak.. ahehe.. duda ako dun..  ::lmao
anyway eto na talaga:

kung kulang ka ng self confidence e..
wag mong isipin na hindi mo kaya lahat ng bagay.. ipakita mo lang sa iba
kung ano ka.. wag ka magpre2tend na ibang tao.. be on natural..
sa itsura naman.. wala na tayo magagawa dyan..
gandahan mo na lang pakikitungo mo sa iba.. atleast..
masabi nila na kahet di ka ganon kagwapo.. maganda naman kalooban mo..

QUOTES:

"ang tunay na kagandahan ay wala sa panlabas na kaanyuan.. kundi nasa kalooban kaya wag ka ng lalabas.. joke  ;D"

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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #3 on: June 30, 2011, 08:17:55 pm »
ano daw un traumatic experience nya?

best,bitin din ako sa story and baka may hang over pa din at di pa ng reply ;D

...yun past mo na lang kaya best pag-hugutan natin ? TOINKS!

@Kuya*Khim - salamat po  ::flowers


@ sa pm sender:

I willl speak in general bro,as di ko naman din alam ng sakto what transpired
in your past...

If you ACCEPT what's done is done,you are left with yourself as you are.
YOU CAN'T GO BACK AND CHANGE ANYTHING.
What matters is where you are now,and you've got to work with what you've got.

"Accepting is easy because it is exactly what it says~Accepting.
You don't have to improve or change for perfection.JUST ACCEPT.
Accepting yourself,your emotional limps and bumps,the bad bits,the weaknesses and
everything about ourselves.We are going to accept what way we are,initially
and then build on that.That's what makes us human being so wonderful~the Complexity.
NONE OF US CAN BE EVER PERFECT.
STOP PICKING YOURSELF OR GIVING YOURSELF A HARD TIME.
You have a family who loves you and that's matter a lot.

sabe nga ni Robert Redford~

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Do you love me? and the wife said 'yes'..'.then i have everything I need' said Robert ;)

You 're doing the best you can at this time , PRESS ON.


The Past has no power ,Only we give it power.If we let them continue to rule over us.

sabe din ni 'timon at pumba' kay 'simba,leave the past behind you.'

Hakuna Matata!

...whatever your past bro,am so sure ,that made you STRONGER today  ::flowers


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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #4 on: June 30, 2011, 08:18:30 pm »
Nakakahiya mang aminin may similarity kami sa taong ito. :(

Paki sabi nalang sa kanya na halos lahat ng kailangan nyang gawin para mai balik ang kanyang confidence ay nandito sa site na ito http://www.wikihow.com


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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #5 on: June 30, 2011, 08:42:15 pm »
Tingin ko kung nagagawa nyang mambabae kahit may asawa at anak na sya, hindi talaga self confidence yung isyu nya. The mere fact that he is able to have a wife and support a kid and land a job is sufficient proof that he shouldn't feel so low.

Sabi nila hindi daw dapat nagkukumpara ng issues sa buhay dahil may kanya-kanyang bigat sa pananaw ng bawat isa ang mga problema pero with all objectivity ay tingnan na lang nya yung mga taong walang trabaho, walang asawa at walang anak, yung mga taong ito ay tingin ko agad-agad makikipagpalit sa kanya ng sitwasyon sa buhay. In reality, he is living a good life, syempre hindi kasama dun yung pambababae nya, pero all in all, may trabaho sya, maayos ang tingin sa kanya ng mga kasamahan nya sa trabaho at may pamilya sya, kapag meron kang ganyan ay hindi na dapat isyu sa iyo ang self confidence. (Baka nga kelangan medyo bumaba pa ang confidence nya para matigil yung pambababae nya, pero syempre ibang isyu na yan.)

Isipin na lang nya yung kung anong meron sya ngayon, tapos samahan nya ng dasal kung naniniwala sya sa Diyos tapos buhayin nya ng tama yung pamilya nya at wag nang mambabae, dadating din ang time na magsisink in sa kanya ang lahat ng bagay na meron sya ngayon at masasabi nyang "I am blessed."

Subukan din nyang mag focus sa pamilya nya at pagbibigay ng magandang buhay sa kanila, minsan kasi sign of selfishness din ang kawalan ng self confidence since masyado kang naka focus sa sarili mo at how you look in the eyes of others kaya nasosobrahan ang pagcriticize sa sarili nyang pagkatao at nagiging daan sa pagbaba ng self confidence nya. Be a man for others, in that way you'll have less time to criticize and check on yourself and the things you want or need, malaking tulong sa sarili ang pagtulong sa kapwa o kahit sa immediate family mo lamang.

Good luck, iwasan na din sana nya ang pambababae since may asawa at anak na sya.

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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #6 on: June 30, 2011, 08:50:56 pm »
thanks botoy  finger4u


thanks pspyrock  finger4u 

@pm sender Do not waste your life being miserable because of things you cannot change.
But don't you do stuuuupid things and expect to feel better....
Reject negative and toxic thoughts.
Toxic thoughts are poisonous to your happiness,
and should not be engaged. Psych yourself up to have only positive
thoughts.





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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #7 on: July 01, 2011, 08:10:43 pm »
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Pasensya na talaga Ms. FerminaDaza, lasing talaga ako nung nag PM sayo kaya siguro kulang-kulang message ko. Honestly, i admit to my self na siguro dala lang ng pagiging "down to earth" na ugali ko kaya mabilis din mawala self confidence ko. Gusto ko na din magbago at inuumpisahan ko na yun.Tama lahat ng replies and really appreciated, Thanks to you at sa iba pang co-spies, maganda lahat ng advice ninyo at dahil dun naiba na ang pananaw ko.

More power sa ating mga ESPIYA...

Maraming salamat po  finger4u


 sayasaya::   anytime bro! ((((((hugs))))))

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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #8 on: July 01, 2011, 08:17:42 pm »
ai tapos na?
boooO!
A person becomes strong by accepting their fears.

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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #9 on: July 01, 2011, 09:17:28 pm »
ai tapos na?
boooO!


ahihi...san ka ba kasi nagpupunta  ;D
no problem bro nagbabasa si pm sender at may nagbabasa pa
if you still have some insights & encouragement words feel free pa din to post.

let our encouragements flow like a water on the stream that keep

flowing and over flowing   ::flowers


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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #10 on: July 01, 2011, 09:19:13 pm »
ahihi...san ka ba kasi nagpupunta  ;D
no problem bro nagbabasa si pm sender at may nagbabasa pa
if you still have some insights & encouragement words feel free pa din to post.

let our encouragements flow like a water on the stream that keep

flowing and over flowing   ::flowers


salamat na lang ma'am. nalimutan ko na rin sasabihin ko. natangay ng water >,<
basta TS, kaya mo yan.
nothing is impossible with a mind that is determined.
A person becomes strong by accepting their fears.

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Re: Help! A Traumatic Past ???
« Reply #11 on: July 07, 2011, 01:57:06 am »
ano daw un traumatic experience nya?


honga po?pero down to earth cya maganda yan boy,wag naman over layan mo ng konting confidence sa sarile ;)