Topic: HELP!! Graduation BLUES :(

[FerminaDaza]

hi lola happy , pwede mo po ba akong tulungan sa problema ko? not lovelife but real life.. huhuhu

problema ko is, panu ko ba sasabihin sa parents at ate ko sa labas na hindi ako gragraduate ngaung taon nato?! >,<

4th year po kasi standing ko kaso my babalikan pa akong subjects e, dko pa po nasabi sa kanila un..

aware naman po sila na may bagsak ako,  Embarrassed

inalala ko lang din ung ante ko sa labas anu magiging reaction nia pag nalaman nia yun, march na. huhu..


natatakot po ako sa mga possibleng mangyayari...sobra po kasi akong love ng parents ko e, SPOILED. ni hindi nila ako pinapagalitan, pwera lang if sumubra na...


ngayon ko lang narealized mga pagkakamali ko, nahihirapan napo ako e panu ko sasabihin sa kanila, naaawa na ako sa sarili ko at sa pamilyaa ko ... huhuhuhu...

wala na rin po akong ibang masasabihan.. =[[ imbes na mga problema ko dapat kong sabihin sa parents ko, pero dko po kaya ...

Guys,pa -help naman po...busy lang talaga ang LOLA nya! 

balik me mamaya apo^^

Thanks a lot ! 

[Belphegor]

for me,
kelangan nya talaga sabihin sa parents nya yun, in any way possible. yung approach sa parents nya siya na siguro bahala, pero pag-sinabi na nya na hindi pa siya makaka-grad ngayung march, dapat may promise sya na by this sumemr (kung may summer grad sa school nila), or by october (kung konti lang naman subjects kulang nya) or sa next march pa siya makaka-graduate. dapat i-assure nya sa parents nya na gagawin na niya lahat para makatapos sa soonest time possible (or allowable) sa school nila.
walang mangyayari kung itatago niya yung fact na hindi pa siya makaka-graduate.
trust me, i know, i've had a lot of over time sa college years ko hehehehe, over-over time na nga eh hahaha, pero very assuring na pag-malapit na talaga maka-graduate, kahit 1 sem or 1 year kang late for graduation, eh graduate ka padin.
everybody makes mistakes, another mistake wont make-up for your previous mistake, you just have to face the music.

just my 2 cents of thought hehehehe cheers 

[FerminaDaza]

If you do feel GUILTY that's a good sign (only the good feel guilty)   


It's pay back time este start to put Everything Right.

You have 2 choices my dear: Put it Right or Dump the Guilt.

You screwed up,all you've got now is a conscience.and it's pointless unless it is acted on for the better.

So Be Honest while you still have a chance.


Well,there's no other way no good way but only less bad way but still you gonna tell that to your parents.

you owe it to them.all along your parents did the best they can,and you have to take Responsibility to

what happened. You are responsible for where you are right now.

Find a good time to talk to your parents ,tell them honestly- what ,why di ka makaka-graduate this march.

tell them how sorry you are to disappoint them and do your promise Not to repeat the same mistakes

and mean it...Our parents love stands the test of time , logic and all circumstance.

family mo pa din ka-agapay mo po,sana di mo na sila i-fail next time.

Take this time,this  odds to your favor,that is to TOUCH BASE. BASE is HOME.

Base is where you were before you get lost. Base is where you feel comfortable,secure,loved,restored

and trusted. Grow up na po,give something back to your base.

About sa isang worry mo pa sa auntie mo...yun kulit mo dati gamitin po sa pagharap sa mga consequences

ng ginawa mo po 


Again, Put it Right. that's the simple course of action.

And please umayus ka na apo ,remember karmic law @ all times 

[FerminaDaza]

for me,
kelangan nya talaga sabihin sa parents nya yun, in any way possible. yung approach sa parents nya siya na siguro bahala, pero pag-sinabi na nya na hindi pa siya makaka-grad ngayung march, dapat may promise sya na by this sumemr (kung may summer grad sa school nila), or by october (kung konti lang naman subjects kulang nya) or sa next march pa siya makaka-graduate. dapat i-assure nya sa parents nya na gagawin na niya lahat para makatapos sa soonest time possible (or allowable) sa school nila.
walang mangyayari kung itatago niya yung fact na hindi pa siya makaka-graduate.
trust me, i know, i've had a lot of over time sa college years ko hehehehe, over-over time na nga eh hahaha, pero very assuring na pag-malapit na talaga maka-graduate, kahit 1 sem or 1 year kang late for graduation, eh graduate ka padin.
everybody makes mistakes, another mistake wont make-up for your previous mistake, you just have to face the music.

just my 2 cents of thought hehehehe cheers 

nice one po 

thanks brad 

[leightot]

wala kang choice malalaman at malalaman yan dahil graduation day is approaching. spoiled ka pala, lagot ka haha. isa lang masasabi ko relieve yourself and ready for an ass whooping session  .

[asanti]

one piece of advice from me ... the news about graduation problem should come from you

[Pierro7]

musta na po kaya si Mr. Spoiled-and-Unable-to-Graduate-this-Year?
i hope he's doing fine.
share ko na rin ang naging experience ng kaibigan/klasmet ko.
he also got the same experience as ma'am Fermiza's client/patient.
too late niya na nalaman na bagsak pala ang isa niyang subject which is essential for clearance.
so ang problema niya ay paano niya sasabihin sa father niya (hiwalay kasi parents niya) na hindi siya makakagraduate this year. hindi na kasi maihahabol yung isang subject at nagmamatigas pa yung prof na nangbagsak sa kanya.

well, nadaan sa pakiusapan. not with the prof but the dean and chairperson of our college. onting daya sa pirma ... somehow nakalusot.. 
ayun.
ang nangyari, nakagraduate siya. nakasabay namin nugn May 2010 sa ceremony. pero nung first sem, kinuha niya yung subject.
wag mo kami gayahin. ehehe. desperate move ang ginawa niya. sinabit lang ako.

[LyDoh]

Salamat sa mga nag reply sa thread nato... AKO po yung tinutukoy ni FD..

@LuCiel07 - Hindi ako ok.. (


Kwento ko nalang,

A week before graduation ko sinabi sa mama ko, yun! na DISAPPOINT sila ng papa ko. Dumating din yung time na nasabi ko rin sa ante ko na nasa labas na d ako makagraduate... NABULAGA naman!

Until dumating ang time na nalaman ng ante ko sa labas kung ilang subjects ang binagsak ko... kaya lang, d na ako pag paaralin e.. or ewan?!


So now, gusto kong umayos. Gusto kong makapagtapos one way or another!


Gusto kong magbago, pero mahirap baguhin kung anu yung nakasanayan ko.. takot rin ako baka mabigo ko sila ulit...


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[matadoramba]

Bro.. Walang ibang aagapay sayu sa mga ganyang bagay kundi ang sarili m na ren.. Yun nga, mahirap talagang baguhen yung nakasanayan .. pero as what you've stated, gusto mo ng mag bago, mag bago sa paraang bago syempre, new things, kung may kailangang palitan o pigilan .. gawen mo bro, lahat naman ng bagay natututunan at nakakasanayan, break the bad habbit, samahan mo ng prayers.. kayang kaya mo yan kung pagtitibayin mo yung paninindigan na gusto mo mapasaya yung nga taong nasa likod mo. Goodluck bro

[FerminaDaza]

Gusto kong magbago, pero mahirap baguhin kung anu yung nakasanayan ko.. takot rin ako baka mabigo ko sila ulit...


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hmm,lola mo ko Takot ka? di ka nagmana sa lola mong Gabriela!  toinks!

don't let FEAR prevents you from doing what you need to do.

FEAR will still your aliveness~make your COURAGE bigger than your fear.

FEAR will stop you from being want you want to be,doing what you want to do.It ROBS you of your

freedom.

All GROWTH includes Struggle & Victory-the Triumph of the New over the OLD,the conquest of the Past

by the Present.

..and FEAR does not go away-It is your ATTITUDE toward it Changes.

Acknowledge the things that you need to change.it's not easy but you can always start.

Be friended with yourself and STOP your self-judgment.Forgive yourself from the past failures

and DO IT.You are stronger than you realize.

Your Fear just means you're having a human reaction to contemplating change & growth~that's all.

It's about time lags,ibigay mo naman yun para sa parents mo po 

Enough for your EXCUSES.You are not a 'baby'any more.Be on your own,You are a GROWN UP.

Don't hate me now ~ I just care 

[voyager_]

noon pa pinayuhan ka na na ayusin mo buhay mo.... naalala mo yung problema mo sa GF mong talipandas?

doon pa lang pinayuhan ka na na magconcentrate sa pag aaral....tapos ngayon yun pa rin  pala ang problema?

well, well, well, balon balon balon.

[KaMushroom]

Gusto kong magbago, pero mahirap baguhin kung anu yung nakasanayan ko.. takot rin ako baka mabigo ko sila ulit...

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di naman madadaan yan sa papost post din sa fb e..
pareho tayo andami ko binagsak kaso ako 1st year palang
ngayon sising sisi nako.. sana nagfocus muna ako sa pagaaral sana ganto sana ganun...

[Belphegor]

gasgado na siguro to, pero: sipag saka tyaga lang hehehe
after god-knows how many years in college naka-grad na ako, hindi ko na din mabilang ilang beses ako nasermunan kasi hindi pa ako graduate, kung magpupursigi ka, graduation din labas nun, pero kung gaya ng sabi nila na masyado ka papa-apekto sa mga nangyayari sayo or sabayan mo ng bisyo pag-aaral mo, mejo mahihirapan ka mag-balanse ng mga bagay-bagay.
set your priorities straight.
yun lang yun. hahaha.

[Pierro7]

Salamat sa mga nag reply sa thread nato... AKO po yung tinutukoy ni FD..

@LuCiel07 - Hindi ako ok.. (


Kwento ko nalang,

A week before graduation ko sinabi sa mama ko, yun! na DISAPPOINT sila ng papa ko. Dumating din yung time na nasabi ko rin sa ante ko na nasa labas na d ako makagraduate... NABULAGA naman!

Until dumating ang time na nalaman ng ante ko sa labas kung ilang subjects ang binagsak ko... kaya lang, d na ako pag paaralin e.. or ewan?!


So now, gusto kong umayos. Gusto kong makapagtapos one way or another!


Gusto kong magbago, pero mahirap baguhin kung anu yung nakasanayan ko.. takot rin ako baka mabigo ko sila ulit...


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aruy!
grabe nga. well, we know the rule: In every action, there is always an opposite force.
cause and effect. you reap what you sow.

yun. for now, kung talagang nagsisisi ka, ipakita mo. if they'd given you another chance para suportahan ka, good. wag mo silang biguin ulit.
persevere. that's the keyword.
wag mo ako gayahin na nagloko kung kelan last sem na lang. ehehe.
well, alam ko namang papasa ako despite na ganun. kaya uber lie-low ako ehehe. nakagraduate ako despite that, pero may mga nagtampo sa akin.

kung walang second chance in your case, that's the time to reflect on what you have done. suffer and face the consequences.

[C.R.E.A.M.]

Naalala ko tuloy yung batchmate ko nung highschool at college, hindi alam sa bahay nila na tatlong taon na sya sa 2nd yr college! 5th year na dapat sya (engineering), nung year na yun ang alam sa bahay nila eh gagraduate na sya sa march! 

[LyDoh]

naalala mo yung problema mo sa GF mong talipandas?

yup sir, naalala ko pa yun, pero 2months lang yun nag last.. at hindi na ako pumasok sa relasyon simula nung nag break kami,

Its just that , nasa laro ang focus ko (computer games) samahan pa ng bisyo... sigh!! 

[BlueAlphaZero]

"...aware naman po sila na may bagsak ako,  Embarrassed"

That statement right there is already a clear indication that you have absolutely no reason to worry about telling your parents. You already flunked a number of subjects (how many is between you and your professors) so somewhere in the back of your parents' mind, they knew your graduation was far from a sure thing. Tell them already so that they don't have to wonder anymore.

noon pa pinayuhan ka na na ayusin mo buhay mo.... naalala mo yung problema mo sa GF mong talipandas?

doon pa lang pinayuhan ka na na magconcentrate sa pag aaral....tapos ngayon yun pa rin  pala ang problema?

well, well, well, balon balon balon.

That was Seigneur Ivoric, Seigneur Voyager? I thought it was another Espiya.

"So now, gusto kong umayos. Gusto kong makapagtapos one way or another! Gusto kong magbago, pero mahirap baguhin kung anu yung nakasanayan ko.. takot rin ako baka mabigo ko sila ulit..."

See here, old chap--based on your rank here, you ought to already know enough of what to do with your life. Admittedly, that rank is for an online forum (albeit one of the best online forums in the world!) but the point is that you're a Seigneur. Do you know what that means? That means you should already have gained enough experience in your lifetime and absorbed enough advice from your fellow Espiyas regarding the problems you're facing. I know it's tough to break free from your old ways but from what you've said, you do know well enough to acknowledge that your old ways are doing you no good. So why not make a change?

Here's a concrete step--the first one you can take: tell your parents you aren't graduating this year. Face up to the consequences since you brought them down on yourself to begin with. Then start cutting down on the computer games. Start ridding yourself of the vices one by one (do you really need to pollute your lungs with carbon monoxide and your liver with alcohol?). If you can enroll in summer classes to make up for the subjects you failed, do it (don't whine that you're supposed to be on vacation; you've been on vacation during the entire school year from the looks of things) and take those summer classes seriously. If you can do well during summer class, it just might spark a new sense of discipline and determination in you to do better during the regular academic term.

Stop thinking of failure. If you really love your parents, you won't let them down. If your parents really love you, they'll be heartened by the fact that you're doing the best that you can to set your life to rights and support you. Even if you fail, they'll know you did your best and encourage you to do better. But you won't know whether or not you'll succeed if you just continue to screw around waste the chances you get.

Ivoric, you are a Seigneur of the Espiya Republic. You have the heart and soul of a Lord and an Espiya. Now claim that heart. Claim that soul. And claim your rightful place in your own life.

Remember the words of Lord Juan Sanchez Villalobos Rami­rez: "Most people have a full measure of life...and most people just watch it slowly drip away. But if you can summon it all up...at one time...in one place...you can accomplish something glorious.

[CoolDabawenyo]

sir pasensya na po if na offend ko po kayo sa tanung ko in any way... (baka lang kasi naninigurado lang...)


uhm anung section ka ba sa UIC?


sinagot po ninyo yung tanung ko so sasagutin din po ako... graduate of batch 2009 po ako... ^_^

ayus din na nakakilala ako ng ka fellow school ko didto...

[CoolDabawenyo]

sir pasensya na po if na offend ko po kayo sa tanung ko in any way... (baka lang kasi naninigurado lang...)


uhm anung section ka ba sa UIC?


sinagot po ninyo yung tanung ko so sasagutin din po ako... graduate of batch 2009 po ako... ^_^

ayus din na nakakilala ako ng ka fellow school ko didto...

si sir 17ivoric10 pala tinutokoy ko po dito... pa sensya na po kung ang gulo ko...

[LyDoh]

si sir 17ivoric10 pala tinutokoy ko po dito... pa sensya na po kung ang gulo ko...

BSCS po ako ... hopefully gragraduate sa 2012... konti lang natira kong subjects... eheheheh