Topic: Why Some Men Run Hot & Cold ?

[FerminaDaza]

Is my BF a sociopath? There were times he was funny,interesting and intelligent – there was nothing wrong i feel  about the 4 months that I was with him – and I was left guessing most of the time as to whether I would see him the following week...To make this story short FD,AFFECTION is on HIS terms ONLY.He was Always Right.He was very cold most of the time.I'm thinking of him maybe Bipolar or worse.He has not been able to keep a girl.I saw the Red flags as well.Although I really cared about him HE treated people better than me He put a good front in front of other people but behind closed door it was totally different.
Hope for enlightenment from you and if you can manage to post something about the topic I really thank you in advance ! 

baka adikk lang ! joke [stretch mo muna noo mo ]

If you’re in a relationship with a man who runs hot and cold you’ll be at his mercy unless you get a grip on yourself. Nothing will make you more crazy and desperate than a man who is playing hide n’ seek with your emotions.

The situation is classic. He starts to pull away, you become like a dog with a bone, unwilling to relinquish what you want. You search frantically for the man who was "hot" on you. He must still feel that way — he just doesn’t know it. So your problem becomes how to get him to pursue you like he did before.  The trap is believing that there is something you have to make right and that you did something wrong that made him turn cold.

How to get a man to stop this behavior is not the question you should be asking. Rather, you need to understand why he is this way, and then maybe you’ll see that it’s not your mission to change him.
There are men who habitually run hot and cold, oblivious to the “passive aggressive” way they deal with women. It’s so much a part of them they don’t think they’re doing anything wrong or hurtful. As a result, they don’t feel the need to change.

But most hot and cold men are aware of what they’re doing. You can bet that they’ve acted this way before, that women have complained to them an abundance of times. You’re not the first and certainly won’t be the last.
 
Most of these men haven’t grown up, they’re just immature. They act like they’re still in grade school. They thrive on the challenge of wooing you until you fall for them, but as soon as they think they’ve got you, they get bored and move on. It doesn’t matter how fabulous, beautiful or smart you are, they still get bored because it’s not about you. It’s about the thrill of the chase and you are the prize for a moment or two.

Some hot and cold men may just not be ready for a fully committed relationship. He may like you a lot but be unable to decide if you’re “The One.” Rather than making a decision, it’s easier for him to string you along until he can know for certain. His ambivalence will bring out his hot and cold behavior since he is so indecisive.
 
The worst offenders are the men who use you for ego gratification. They actually get a thrill watching you suffer over their inconsistent and rude behavior. It makes them feel powerful to know they can treat you badly and then pick up the phone and still have you available whenever they want.
 
These men are full of pride. They relish the game of cat and mouse they’re playing with you. It gives them a sense of entitlement that they’ve mastered the art of being inconsistent and uncommitted. They love to watch a woman emotionally fall apart over their inconsiderate actions.
 
Changing these men is not in your job description. Your attempts will just make you lose your confidence and destroy your faith that there are any good men out there. The best thing you can do if you are with a hot and cold man is to cut him out of your life completely.
 
But beware: a man like this will be triggered by your rejection and turn hot on you again. He may not fully want you, but he also doesn’t want you to set the rules. In the end, you have to know that he’s not for you. He is emotionally unable to make the deep, intimate and life-long commitment you’re looking for.


My take  [@Ladies] I was just in one of these relationships – and well – I’m a big girl – I knew what I was getting myself into – I don’t blame him – I don’t think it is fair to call men like this names – It is up to us as women to decide if how we want to be treated and who we want to date. If you are dating someone who isn’t giving you what you need than it is up to you to communicate what you need and if you don’t get it well …LEAVE.

I am old enough to know that It is not my role to try and change anyone.


So don’t be haters of these men – choose to spend time with them or not …. and take it for what it is worth ….

Follow your intuition – if you are in a relationship or are dating a man who runs hot and cold – you will know early on – just never assume you are the one who will change him. Have fun … continue to live a full life and keep your options open. Be Strong 


 

[Telesforo]

Letter Sender: Baka naman kasi ayaw mong maki-pag kita kasi bago ang sapatos nya or di naman kaya eh gusto mo lang makipagkita sa kanya kung madami kayo. Eh ang gusto pala nya eh masolo ka.

Hot sya pag kayong dalawa lang then cold sya pag madami na kayo...?

Hmmm hindi kaya personality disorder yan na aka Psychopath.

[TJHan]

I feel like i'm the guy in topic, and tama may bipolar syndrome ako

[FerminaDaza]

I feel like i'm the guy in topic, and tama may bipolar syndrome ako

have you received Professional treatment bro ?

If you are depressed for more than two weeks consistently, then it's time to visit a doctor for an evaluation.


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