Topic: what modern woman(man) wants...

[FerminaDaza]

hi.hello. i was asked by one of our co- spy here to post/share this ( nakita daw nya sa fb) wondering if ladies can relate or agree at anu din daw take ng mga guys.

anyhu, first off, basa muna tyu-

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=539105256147898&set=a.456710667720691.106642.456700231055068&type=1&theater

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
“What kind of man are you looking for?”

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do
you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said,”Yes.”

She began to expound…

“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any
man…or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’”

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, “I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I
need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t
need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe
for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t
need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a
woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and
game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and
provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must
respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I
have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will
recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection,
but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for
man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,”You are asking a
lot.”

She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.






mmkay...mgcocomment pa po ba me, mas mahaba yun 
ayus naman yun nasabe- of course and as always, knowing what you want first is getting what you want...If you care & love yourself most of all,YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH. Because when you don't like yourself it's easy to put up with BS...And when you know how to be happy on your own, that's the best time to have a relationship. To summed up my novela- modern men & women ( modern as masyado n tyung nag evolve from living in the caves ,the rules have *change*. Women now want a relationship NOT for survival anymore but for Personal Fulfilment ) Anyhu, whatever state of life you are now & you're single, you'll have much better chance to have a great relationship If you put this in mind: Be the Love you are looking for! 


teka lang po,pa share na din ng story which might resonates sa mga guys naman natin-



It’s an old Sufi tale of a conversation between Mulla Nasrudin and a good friend:

“I’m getting married on the morrow, Mulla,” announced his friend, smiling wide from ear to ear.

Mulla Nasrudin was quiet and thoughtful.

“Isn’t marriage wonderful, Mulla! It is quite the best! Have you ever considered getting married, Mulla?”

“In my youth I thought of nothing else,” sighed Mulla Nssrudin.  “I so wanted to find the perfect wife that I traveled the world searching for her. In Damascus, I met a woman who was beautiful, spiritual, and loving, but, alas, she had no worldly knowledge. In Isphahan, I met a woman who was beautiful, loving, and worldly, but, alas, she wasn’t interested in the spiritual life.”

“Where did you travel to next, Mulla?” asked his friend.

“Where did you travel to next, Mulla?” asked his friend.

“I forget where, but I met a woman who was truly spiritual, loving, and worldly, but, alas, she wasn’t beautiful. Finally, I went to Cairo, and there, after much searching, I found the perfect wife. She was everything I had wanted her to be. She was perfect,” sighed Mulla Nasrudin.

“If she was so perfect, why did you not marry her, Mulla?” asked his friend.

“Alas,” said Mulla Nasrudin, shaking his head, “she was, unfortunately, looking for the perfect husband!”

- excerpt from my fave book Happiness Now by Robert Holden


Mulla Nasrudin is a clever teacher. His stories are really teachings of high truth.  In this story, Mulla teaches us that, as the law of attraction states, like attracts like.  Hence, if you are only looking for love, you will attract someone who is also only looking for love. Two people who are only looking for love will not find love when they meet each other. They may experience chemistry or infatuation, but not love.

If, however, you are committed to being the most loving person you know, you will attract someone who is committed to living on that wavelength too. And, when two people – who are committed to being the love they are looking for – finally meet, they will find love.

[UrAnus]

grabe ang demanding.    Yung tipong may ganyang qualities(sensitive, financial excellence, submissive,etc..) ng lalake marami sa parlor nyan.   

[burnhito]

Finding the perfect match is like searching a needle in space...

[DavonMatthew]

 

[FerminaDaza]

para sa akin ba yan pepe?   tipid mo naman , di ka naman pipi pepe? toinksss joke lang po. thanks for reading  & thanks sa rose po

[Type_One]

these ladies...are gonna be single till they die, alone and lonely + miserable

[-=Kurabo=-]

if you are only looking for love, you will attract someone who is also only looking for love -- How come I can't find one

[FerminaDaza]

these ladies...are gonna be single till they die, alone and lonely + miserable

...still waiting 

if you are only looking for love, you will attract someone who is also only looking for love -- How come I can't find one

may kasunod yun bro - "Two people who are only looking for love will not find love when they meet each other. They may experience chemistry or infatuation, but *not* love. If, however, you are committed to being the most loving person you know, you will attract someone who is committed to living on that wavelength too. And, when two people – who are committed to being the love they are looking for – finally meet, they will find love.

...be the most loving version of yourself and the universe will work in your behalf  we don't attract what we want. we attract what we are.

[amaru13]

ganito ba mangyayare sa kanya pag hindi nya nakita love of her life?

[ruthless]

okey naman maging choosy at demanding basta sana may maio-offer din naman sa guy para patas.

[BlueAlphaZero]

Sometimes it's the one quality that a person is never looking for that actually turns out to be the one that attracts them most.

[-=Kurabo=-]

If you are just looking & wanting to be in a relationship out of desperation (as even you can't stand your own self) you will attract someone who's also desperate (imagine what kind of relationship is that) -- been there done that, like a zombie is the perfect comparison you are just fooling yourself since from the start

[FerminaDaza]

Sometimes it's the one quality that a person is never looking for that actually turns out to be the one that attracts them most.

teka,take 2 tyu bro kurabo naremove ko post ko


thanks for sharing seigneur  what  i believe is when we come from the place of love & abundance and not to hate & fear, we generate love...we don't kill ourselves just to be with someone. yet as we generate love, that love flows through you en what flows through you sticks to you! in that manner, we are not looking to get & get but to SHARE. Determination without Desperation is what we have to practice.If you are just looking & wanting to be in a relationship out of desperation (as even you can't stand your own self) you will attract someone who's also desperate (imagine what kind of relationship is that) - Just remember, that: Love is you!

sa na single & looking, cheer up, just remember, that Love is You! Know what you want, and NEVER settle for anything less than your heart & soul desire.Say NO to those ppl & opportunity that are subpar!


“There are worse things than being lonely and horny” –Dr.Brenda Wade

[FerminaDaza]

P.S

- sa mga nawawalan ng hope- wak na wak mawalang ng hope at itakwil ang pag- ibig     the real purpose of every relationship is to increase your capacity to give and receive love unconditionally. Most of us are either out of balance with giving or out of balance in receiving, or hung up in an old conditional love pattern. There's a reason your past relationship didn't work out. They were giving you the opportunity to *learn and grow*,allowing you to make room for the right person.

jozko, IME, yun love map ko dati, mahilig ako mag rescue ng mga PC/problem child...The way i loved then is fixing them. aarrrrgghh sadsies, i was the gf & the therapist...Until, the Universe made me see that I can't be both  Thank Universe din that am able to acknowledge those mistakes & transform those patterns ( well i choose to say am still in the process -to stay mindful/aware ) The most important lesson i've learned talaga is to love & be kind to myself first & foremost-whatever i want to get,i have to do or give it first to myself. If i don't know how to take care & love myself, who will?


It's OK to fail in life & in love...Just don't give up. Be kind to yourselves 

[Type_One]

lemme quote why these happen. Something via FB. And min you, this gurl is a hot chick...Hazel Feliciano

Rosell Taguba Feliciano
Yesterday at 3:08am via mobile ·
When a girl has a wall up it's because it was built... Brick by brick, lie after lie, heartbreak after heartbreak.

[matadoramba]

Perfect men aren't real, as REAL men aren't perfect.

[FerminaDaza]

lemme quote why these happen. Something via FB. And min you, this gurl is a hot chick...Hazel Feliciano

Rosell Taguba Feliciano
Yesterday at 3:08am via mobile ·
When a girl has a wall up it's because it was built... Brick by brick, lie after lie, heartbreak after heartbreak.

thanks again for sharing Ja-

en speaking of WALL...wall don't let anybody in...ladies & gentlemen, I suggest know/have BOUNDARIES. boundaries is fluid & allow us to be clear with others about what we can & can't do. what we want & don't want. Self-awareness, Self-care, HEALTHY Boundaries is what we need to allow any relationship to flourish.

You will always get what you accept.

Perfect men aren't real, as REAL men aren't perfect.

right on bro! 

Perfection is an Illusion. In fact our soul mate is the person that push all of our buttons but still fine with them.KASI,the best relationship,the best partner is the one that you can be AUTHENTIC, you can be just yourself & you know they love you as you.

True love takes TIME to develop.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsmUOdmm02A[/youtube]

"Sometimes I hate every single stupid word you say/
Sometimes I want to slap you in your whole face." 
"At the same time I want to hug you/
I wanna wrap my hands around your neck/
You're an asshole/But I love you/
and you make me so mad I ask myself why am I still here… 
I really hate you/So much it must be true love." 

[zeraus11]

That's how Woman should be treated. I would agree Mam FD

Though i wont be the perfect guy. But i would if i could 

[Type_One]

thanks again for sharing Ja-

en speaking of WALL...wall don't let anybody in...ladies & gentlemen, I suggest know/have BOUNDARIES. boundaries is fluid & allow us to be clear with others about what we can & can't do. what we want & don't want. Self-awareness, Self-care, HEALTHY Boundaries is what we need to allow any relationship to flourish.

You will always get what you accept.


right on bro! 

Perfection is an Illusion. In fact our soul mate is the person that push all of our buttons but still fine with them.KASI,the best relationship,the best partner is the one that you can be AUTHENTIC, you can be just yourself & you know they love you as you.

True love takes TIME to develop.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsmUOdmm02A[/youtube]

"Sometimes I hate every single stupid word you say/
Sometimes I want to slap you in your whole face." 
"At the same time I want to hug you/
I wanna wrap my hands around your neck/
You're an asshole/But I love you/
and you make me so mad I ask myself why am I still here… 
I really hate you/So much it must be true love." 

that lady right there, turned from an innocent looking person, to a daring hot chick, i wonder what happened somewhere down the line

[BlueAlphaZero]

Perfect men aren't real, as REAL men aren't perfect.

As correct as this statement might be, it's unfortunate that a lot of men and women use it to excuse all sorts of deplorable behavior.

And speaking of deplorable behavior, I remember what The One/The One Who Got Away/The Biggest Mistake I Ever Made/The Biggest Mistake I Never Made once told me: "I learned how to take care of myself at an early age so that I can be independent. So if I'm in a relationship and my partner thinks he can do what he pleases because he thinks he's got me under his control, he can go to hell for all I care because I know I can walk away from him."

It's always better to be able to take care of yourself and stand on your own two feet so that you won't have to put up with a jackass, regardless of the gender.

[randombeats]

ladies with views on relationship and love similar to are getting lesser and lesser..
I wish I could a date with modern women like you (^^)

[randombeats]

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ladies with views on relationship and love similar to are getting lesser and lesser..
I wish I could a date with modern women like you (^^)
- See more at: http://espiya.net/forum/index.php?action=post;topic=155489.0;num_replies=20#sthash.V29FAXaH.dpuf

... *have a date with modern women like you (^^)

[lakazmo]

 

[FerminaDaza]

oh sweetie, why sadsie? where's your power lakazmo? 

[kimagure]

hmmmm. interesting topic! basta ako kung anu kaya ko gawin para sa minamahal ko gagawin ko na lang para mapasaya siya.

practically speaking kailangan talaga meron kang kakayahan pag dating sa financial. kita niyo yun commercial ni Anne sa PS bank?