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i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« on: January 05, 2014, 03:11:09 am »
here't the story. i'll make it short. my gf in college got pregnant.her name is Rhea, not planned. it happened right before we broke up. were not really in good terms na talaga before pa siya nabuntis. so we broke up but we still have communication. then after a months she told me wala padin siya dalaw. then nun nalaman namin na pregnant siya. we tried to make our relationship work. but after a year and half. kahit meron na yung baby. it didn't work out.

so here's the prob. were apart after that year. iba school niya. then we barely see. i fall inlove with a girl.her name is mae and our relation lasted for almost 6 years now. days nalang. alam nun babae na my anak ako after 6 mos namen sa rel. we talk about it. and naaus namen.

Rhea and I still see each other because of our son. she wanted to fix it but i don't have feelings anymore for her. we tried to talk. and go on. but still not working. i know i have fault. i fall inlove with another girl without fixing my previous relationship. but i can't change what happened na. Rhea didnt know i have another girl but she knows i dont have feelings for her anymore.Nalaman niya lang this year. she got mad at me. but still wanted me to marry her. i said i dont want to cause i really love the other girl. even if we get married. it wont work. i told her. we can take care of our son even we will have our own family rather than we got married because it wont work. i dont love her anymore. magiging broken family lang din ***. but she insisted and threatened me to take away my son. and also my family is mad at me and i have no one. against all odds.she didnt let me see my son for 6 mos. only to my relative. she sad when 2014 hit and i still dont talk to her parents. pati sa relative ko ilalayo na at i change name na ang anak ko.

now when the time that she gave me para ayusin yung problem namin or else ilalayo na anak ko for real. i got scared. so kinausap ko parents ko. na mamanhikan. but it not really my choice. ginawa ko lang un para hindi ilayo ang anak ko. and para kausapin n ako ulit na papa ko.

now im stuck. hindi ko pala talaga kaya magpakasal sakanya and mahal na mahal ko si mae. nag usap kami na we should have our own live. if kami talaga. kami talaga. and after a month na hindi *** nag kakausap ni mae. it was my saddest and desperate time even im with Rhea and my son.

nakausap ko ulit si mae. i told her. i want to be with her. i want to runaway. hindi ko na talga madaan sa usapan *** fam ko at si Rhea. its been almost a year n araw arw nakikipag away ako para sabhin si mae ang mahal ko pero they didnt listen.

im planning to runaway this febraury. nag iipon lang ako ng pera ko. ill find Mae again. alam ko naman kung asan siya and nagkausap na kami. even though rough yung usapan namen. i know she still love me and hoping maksma ko siya..

i plan to runaway. my work ako. pero lalayas na ako without resigning para hindi mahalata. but im having problem pano ako mag apply and magsurvive pag layas ko. ang option ko is either call center or online job na tatanngap skin even nag awol ako sa job ko.

any thoughts guys? thanks

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« Reply #1 on: January 05, 2014, 03:54:13 am »
Huh, pwede mo naman i kaso yan na pwede ka makadalaw sa bata.. peru kasi ewn hirap talaga yan pare...

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« Reply #2 on: January 05, 2014, 04:22:04 am »
May plano ka na pala tumakas/lumayas, eh di no need na yung pag mamanhikan mo dun sa inanakan mo kasi in effect di mo na rin makikita yung kid mo eh. so ano pa problema at kailangan mo pa lumayas? Mas malala lang ang ending non kasi di mo na nga makikita anak mo, lalayo ka pa sa family mo.

Isa lang ang solusyon dyan, I dadaan mo yan sa legal pre. kung di ka willing na umabot sa ganon,  wala na talaga kung di kaya sa pakiusapan, shit happens lang talaga kung ganyan na lang

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« Reply #3 on: January 05, 2014, 04:37:30 am »


i plan to runaway. my work ako. pero lalayas na ako without resigning para hindi mahalata. but im having problem pano ako mag apply and magsurvive pag layas ko. ang option ko is either call center or online job na tatanngap skin even nag awol ako sa job ko.

any thoughts guys? thanks


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LAHAT NG CHOICES NA GAGAWIN MO AY MAY KASAMANG CONSEQUENCES.

IMHO,wak ka na sanang mag alsa balutan.Hinaharap ang problema( a probkem is still a problem til you face it) makipag usap ka pa din & take a stand sa kung anu yun TOTOO SYU...Rhea, will keep on 'using' your son especially if you keep giving in sa mga demands nya...so, ask mo na lang yun self mo if worth talaga na malayu ka muna sa son mo and follow your own truth.

You know your in the right path when you are not put in a position to betray yourself.



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« Reply #4 on: January 05, 2014, 04:42:40 am »
Hmmm.. sabi mo its been a year na nakikipag away ka sa kanila trying to make them realize that its mae you love. You did not mention kung natuloy ang kasal.. I hope hindi ko lang nalaktawan ang detail na yun.

If you really love Mae that much and di ka pa naman kasal... panindigan mo ang pagiging lalake mo. The child will understand paglaki nya. Hindi kailanman naging tamang dahilan ang anak para ipilit pa ang mga bagay na hindi na talaga kayang ayusin pa. Ngayon.. kung pinakasalan mo na nga si Rhea.. dude.. nasan naman ang disposisyon mo nyan? The cost of not following your heart is spending your whole life wishing you had.

Take it to the court. Oo alam ko within you gusto mo din maging mabuting anak at ama. Pero hindi na saklaw ng mga magulang natin ang puso natin eh. Kapag ang mga ganitong sitwasyon na hindi mo talaga guato ay ipipilit sayo... makakasira lang yan sa pagkatao mo. At hindiito makakabuti sa mga tao sa paligid mo. Kay Mae at lalong lalo na sa anak mo.

Make a stand. According as to what can make you happy. Then do it! Life is too short to be anything but happy. And being unhappy makes it even shorter. Your choice.
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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #5 on: January 05, 2014, 05:30:29 am »
 smoking:: is it just me? Or mahirap talaga intindihin?


Pero yeah you can take it to the court but dont expect sayo mapupunta ang bata

wag ka na rin mag taka bakit galit sayo magulang relatives mo sayo pagkatapos mo iwanan yung bata

Tapos namanhikan ka kay Rhea pero sinasabi mo kay Rhea at family mo si Mae ang mahal mo?

anong gusto mo? Pumalakpak at magpa fiesta magulang mo?

And i think Mae did pick the right choice to leave you at hindi na magpa kita sayo

i personally think una sinaktan mo sya , ang babae sensitive ang feelings nila when we did something na slight  na pagkakamali like we lie dinadamdam nila yun ng sobra

Lalo na sa case mo , you promise her na gusto mo sya makasama pero imposible dahil may anak ka at kinakasama na ngayon

Pangalawa ayaw nya makasira ng family, malamang naisip nya yung anak mo tulad mo ayaw nya na lumaki yung bata na walang magulang walang tatay na kinikilala at sumusuporta

pangatlo malamang ayaw nya maging kerida mo

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« Reply #6 on: January 05, 2014, 08:21:26 am »
lol. kung pagku quit nga sa work hindi mo kayang panindigan... lalayasan mo lang basta basta, yan pa kayang maging isang ama?

hindi mo yata nakukwento ang totoong istorya dahil kahit pamilya mo badtrip sa ginawa mo...

anyway, layuan mo na lang si Rhea at ang bata dahil mukhang immature ka pa pagdating sa mga ganyang bagay. Mukha namang ala kang maibibigay na tulong din. sakit sa ulo lang ang ibibigay mo.

opinyon ko lang ha wag magalit. kasi nag ask ka ng thoughts ng mga ka espiya e.



i plan to runaway. my work ako. pero lalayas na ako without resigning para hindi mahalata. but im having problem pano ako mag apply and magsurvive pag layas ko. ang option ko is either call center or online job na tatanngap skin even nag awol ako sa job ko.

any thoughts guys? thanks

you're welcome!

hope maging masaya kayo ni Mae. or sana hindi ka mapaibig sa katabi mo sa bus habang papunta ka sa bahay ni Mae.

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« Reply #7 on: January 05, 2014, 08:40:46 am »
Mahirap intindihin kung bakit mas papabor pa ang magulang mo kay rhea. Hindi yan dahil lang sa bata, kundi may nakikita sila kay mae na di mo nakikita dahil sa nabubulag ka ng sinasabi mong pagibig. Wag ka na rin umasta na parang artista na you can't work things out kasi muka namang handang gawin ni Rhea ang lahat para mahalin ka.

TS, tama ang desisyon mo. tumakas ka na. hindi ginusto ng bata na ikaw ang maging ama. Kahit man gaano kamali sa batas ng pagibig na pakasalan ang isang taong di mo na mahal (supposing minahal mo si rhea before), mas matimbang pa rin "in my personal opinion" ang batas na nagbibigay ng karapatan sa bata na magkaroon ng buong pamilya.

Wag ka na ring maghabol sa bata. kung tutuusin ikaw tong dapat hinahabol. Kahit wag ipakita sa iyo yung bata suportahan mo pa rin. pag laki ng anak mo, pag hindi na sya mapagbabawalan saka mo kunin ang loob. yun eh kung di pa huli ang lahat at di maging pariwara ang buhay nya. Pero wala ka kasalanan sa buhay nung bata. Choice naman nyang lumangoy sa sinapupunan ng ina nya di ba?

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« Reply #8 on: January 05, 2014, 09:03:44 am »
Gaya po ng sinabi ni Ms. Schandelah, kung kasal ka na po kay Rhea, eh dapat pangatawanan mo na talaga yan. Unang-una before kayo mamanhikan eh alam mo ng ayaw mo sakanya at ang mahal mo eh yung isa. Ngayon idadahilan mo eh kasi nga ayaw mong malayo sayo yung anak mo. Kalokohan na yan. Masyado ka ng makasarili nyan pag ganyan. Ano yun Sir lahat nalang gusto mo pabor sayo? Give and take Sir. Isipin mo din yung kapakanan at kalagayan at dahilan ni Rhea kung bakit sya ganun. Mahal ka talaga nya at ayaw nyang lumaki yung anak nya/nyo ng hindi nakakasama yung tunay na tatay, kaya ginagawa nya lahat para magsama kayo.

Ngayon kung hindi ka kasal, sapagkakaalam ko po, eh wala kang laban pag nilayo nya yung bata or pinapalitan nya ng pangalan. Kung gusto mo pakasalan ni Mae, pwede naman kung sakaling di ka pa nga nakakasal kay Rhea. Pero tama din yung sinabi ni Sir Abdul na pwede mong kuhanin yung loob ng bata someday..."yun eh kung di pa huli ang lahat at di maging pariwara ang buhay nya".

Nakakaawa din yung bata na naiipit sa ganyang kalagayan. Again Sir...kung kasal ka na po kay Rhea, pilitin mo nalang Sir na panatilihing buo ang pamilya nyo.

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« Reply #9 on: January 05, 2014, 09:11:32 am »
do it... be selfish... in the end ikaw naman ang mahihirapan o masisiyahan sa mga desisyon mo sa buhay... yung mga nagdedesisyon para sayo wala yan... hindi naman sila magiging accountable sa mga pinaggagawa mo sa buhay, ikaw lang... ang sa akin lang panindigan mo... pati yung bata na iiwan mo, panindigan mo

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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #10 on: January 05, 2014, 10:22:58 am »
1. Mamanhikan at Magpapakasal ka kay Rhea na hindi mo mahal = wrong, Prolonging AGONY lang to
2. Aalis ka sa work ng walang pormal na paalam = wrong, Ilang milyon naghahanap work tapos ikaw iiwan mo lang bsta2x


1. Kausapin mo magulang mo. Kunin mo ung side ng payo nila. Kpag may desisyon ka na. Sabihin mo sa FAMILY mo. FAMILY mo pa din ang babalikbalikan mo kpg may PROBLEMA ka TANDAAN mo yan!!
2. May work ka na pala, bakit ka maglalayas? anu silbi ng sahod mo para maghanap ng TIRAHAN nyo ni Mae :) este matutuluyan pala :)
3. Kung TAMA ang kwento mo sa ginagawa ni Rhea cyo, wag ka papikot. File ka ng reklamo sa woman's desk ng Pulis na nakakasakop sa knila. May work ka at IKAW ang may Capacity buhayin ang anak nyo. Si Rhea baka wala work, pano nya bubuhayin?

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« Reply #11 on: January 05, 2014, 11:53:02 am »
"Do not eat what you can't chew...then much more swallow". Bro, logic alone will tell you that your ex is after somethin. If she wanted marriage, then why wait more than 6yrs? Make one thing, and just one thing clear to the Rhea girl, tell her that you'd support the kid, but you're not necessarily gonna take her in. Coz like what everyone said, she can still run after things beyond the kid...much more if you marry her. She gonna be a siting bum there while you work your bung out. Everything is not practical. Ok, a kid is a kid, but it really seems like she's after stuff more than that....
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« Reply #12 on: January 05, 2014, 12:37:19 pm »
Actually, I find your story confusing.

So now, you're with the girl na nabuntis mo (Rhea), dahil namanhikan kayo para kausapin ka ulit ng papa mo? pero hindi mo talaga gusto gawin yun? Then, plano mo mag-layas this february? teka, sino ba or ano ba ang lalayasan mo? work lang ba or bahay niyo? sino ba kasama mo sa bahay? family mo as in your parents? si rhea and your son? eh teka ulit, ano nga bang work mo? what's the point of not properly resigning from your job? What does your job have to do with Rhea and your son? then, saan ka ba nakatira? How old are you na ba? I mean, I'd understand the running away part if you're like in your early 20's, working for your parents, living in your parents' house, and brought your impregnated woman and son to the same house; to the point that you have not saved any money after how many years of working.

anyway, legally, rhea cant take your son away just like that, specially if the kid is using your surname. taking away your son without your knowledge is like kidnapping. though, i'm not sure about the family code, but a parent alone can't travel a son or daughter out of the country without the other parent's consent and a travel permit from the dswd, even if the parents are not married. she also can not change the name of the kid without a court order, legalizing the change of name. getting that court order will require your presence and acknowledgement. of course, the court may take the mother's side if the mother can substantiate proof that the father is unable to support the child and she can by her self.

personally, if i was on your shoes, assuming that i have worked for how many years and can afford legal help, 1. i'd get help from a lawyer to get custody of the child (of course if that's what you want because you said you didnt want her to take away your son) 2. if my parents cant take the fact that i no longer like the girl i impregnated, then that's their problem. sooner or later, they'd understand that i am their son and the impregnated girl is not their daughter. 3. i'd work harder to get more money so i'd have my own place. 4. get a better job. 5. BE MATURE

boy, running away is the lamest thing to do. gawain ng mga takot, duwag. Be man enough to face your problem till you fix it. A problem will stay to be a problem if you just leave it behind. Mas lalala pa yan kung iiwanan mo lang.


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« Reply #13 on: January 05, 2014, 05:34:03 pm »
you mentioned about change name so im assuming that it is your surname being used, hence i cant understand how the mom can do a "change name".  in other words you have legal rights, you being acknowledged as the father.  go consult an attorney then.

magpapakasal just for convenience even though hindi mo mahal yung girl at ang mahal mo ay iba?  such a shitty thing to do.  as for your work, bakit ka mag-a-AWOL?  ano ba nature ng work mo? 

pag-isipan mo muna lahat ng binabalak mo at baka mas lumala ang sitwasyon.  ingat parati PARE. 
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« Reply #14 on: January 05, 2014, 07:23:33 pm »
Harapin mo problema mo, tapos mong magpakasarap kosa kana lang tatakbo.  Suntukin mo nga sarili mo sa harap ng salamin baka matauhan ka pa.  Hinay2x at wag padalos2x lahat ng pinaggagawa mo ngayon ikaw rin mananagot sa huli.  Good luck sa iyo kapatid, isasama kita sa dasal ko ngayon.

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« Reply #15 on: January 05, 2014, 09:58:04 pm »
Thread starter, I'm sorry if I'll sound harsh, but I sincerely believe that you're the type of person who is secretly attracted to drama in your life.  Subconsciously, you crave it.  And when it's there, deep inside you, you revel at it despite the difficulties it brings along.  This need for drama, whether we are aware of it or not, is a manifestation of one's need for attention.  Just look at the way you phrased your post.  It was all about you and your sufferings - not the child's, not your child's mother's, and not your current partner's.  It's all about your feelings.  It's all about you.

Again, I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I have to tell you this as a way of slapping your face - figuratively speaking - to wake you up and to remind you, if not make you realize, that everything - EVERYTHING - is in your favor.

So please, tama na muna ang drama, pare ko at mag-focus tayo sa kung ano ang totoo at kung bakit wala ka naman dapat problema.

Think of it this way: you're the point guard in a basketball game.  Your team is up by 20 points.  You have the ball.  Then, all of a sudden, you walk out of the game.

Stupid, right?

That's how ridiculous your current idea is.

So the mother wants to deprive you of your right to see your child.  Not a problem.  File an action for Enforcement of Visitorial Rights Over a Minor before the Family Court where either you or the mother resides, or if there is no Family Court in any of those areas, before the Regional Trial Court.

The mother is about to hide the child?  Add an application for a Writ of Preliminary Injunction with the action mentioned above to stop her from doing so.

The mother has already hidden the child?  File for a Writ of Habeas Corpus before the same venue.

You are the natural father of the child.  The Family Code is on your side.  You will win.

Also, as Kikomaching1 stated, the mother cannot change the child's name without a court order.  Before such an order can be awarded, publication of the application is required.  During the period of publication, you can file your opposition to the change of name, and a full blown hearing will ensue where you can lay your arguments.  You are the illegitimate father.  Your surname was used in the birth certificate.  RA No. 9255 is on your side.  You will win.

With basic writing and research skills, you may not even need a lawyer for these actions.  But if you don't feel comfortable about representing yourself and if the procedural requirements may seem too daunting for you, you can hire one.  If you can't afford one, consult with the Public Attorney's Office in your area.

Now go on.  Don't be stupid.  You had the time to mope and dwell in your self pity, you should have the time to BE A MAN and make things right.
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« Reply #16 on: January 06, 2014, 12:16:45 am »
i appreciate all you're thoughts. i know im at fault. di pa kami married ni Rhea nag sama kami now for a month but everything was cold. sa government ako nag wowork. im in my mid 20's. my licence na rin ako.ayaw ko sana idaan sa court. makipagusap lang ng maaus. but its not working. ayaw din kasi ako paalisin samen ng dinadaan ko sa usap. and pag nag resign ako sa work alam nilang im gonna leave. they will find way to stop me. sa province lang ako. madali lng nila iblock pag alis ako.nakipagusap din ako sa parents ko at kapatid about dito. pero ayaw nila ako paalisin at pinipilit nila na pakasal ako. nakakahiya daw kami pag umalis ako.  thanks sa mga advice. ill talk my way out nalang muna hanggang sa makakaya ko. and if ayaw talaga. then i guess last option ko na un. and if ever matuloy un. dun nalang ako mag lelegal like ng advice nyo. thanks sa inyo guys.

ayaw nila ky mae kasi di naman nila siya nakilala. but mae is special. she made me feel special and loved sa 6 years n pagsasama namen. si rhea ang kilala nila kasi andito din siya sa province. mayaman sila. isa sa mayayaman sa lugar namen.
2012 palang sinabi ko na gusto ko mag stay sa manila ayaw nila kasi pinipilit nila si rhea kasi nasa province siya at asa manila si mae. then pinagbigyan ko sila mag stay ako d2 pero sabi ko wlang magbabago at si mae pdin ang mahal ko. i even told it to rhea matagal na. na hindi ko siya mahal at my mahal ako iba. and susuportahan ko naman anak namen. but i cant live with her. pero ayaw niya makinig at pinipilit pdin gusto niya. now ginipit na nila ako kaya naiisip ko nalang lumayas.
for the whole year na nkikipagusap ako about sa problem ayaw nila makinig. yung gusto pdin nila piniplit nila until now. kaya naicp ko ung paglalaywas. pasensiya kung mejo magulo yung kwento ko. di ko din alam pano istart ng maaus at ikwento

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« Reply #17 on: January 06, 2014, 02:02:32 am »
nanganak na ba siya? if not, make sure na acknowledge mo yung bata..hindi kasal ang solusyun sa problema mo..at hindi rin maiigi na balikan mo si mae..magbakasyon ka muna hindi yung basta ka na lang aalis..mas lalo mo pinapalala sitwasyun mo..talk to your parents, they are the least who'll understand you and your only sandigan..explain how you feel..one more thing, you did it as a man, face it as a man..kaya mo yan kapatid..hindi lang ikaw nagka prob nang ganyan..may iba pa mas malala pa sa sitwasyon mo..at hindi ka naman celebrity para pag pyestahan sa inyo..lilipas din yan at maayos din ang lahat..

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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #18 on: January 06, 2014, 02:13:36 am »
alam mo ng mali sa umpisa ipipilit mo pa, baka naman mahal mo pa rin si Rhea at palusot mo lang ang bata kasi kung yun lang, maraming paraan at di mo kailangan ipagsiksikan ang sarili mo na in the long run, ang bata rin ang magsusuffer. check mo rin baka may mga malalaking utang yung Rhea kasi baka gawin ka lang tagasalo sa utang - ganun nangyari sa kakilala namin kasi di niya alam ::laffman

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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #19 on: January 06, 2014, 02:48:43 am »
Mayaman si Rhea? kuha ko na kung bakit pabor ang magulang mo. May poll nung nakaraan dito sa espiya kung pera o pagibig, pera ang pinili ko. Pagisipan mo mabuti ts. kung hindi ka mayaman, hindi ko talaga maintindihan ang trip mo sa buhay. hindi ka papakainin ng pagibig mo tapos susuportahan mo pa anak mo. Mayaman ka ba TS?  ???

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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #20 on: January 06, 2014, 04:21:52 am »
yup. mayaman si Rhea. she belong to one of the rich family in our province. and nope di ako mayaman but i know i can have a good job sa profession which i can earn on my own and will be able to support my kid. and im dont love rhea. its been a long time. even with her ang naiisip ko is si mae. and i feel guilty. when she ask me about sa date ng wedding di ako makasagot. or even is i miss her or love her. cause i dont. i already talk to my parents. 2 times na ako pinalayas. but i stil talk to them kasi alam ko family ko sila and they will understand eventually. but no avail. still yun padin ang thoughts nila. since nakasama ko ulit si Rhea. i think its been a month. araw araw na away. at sinabihan pa ako buti pa sabhin ko nalang sa parents niya na hindi na kami papakasal. well known sila dito. nasa politics father niya. and mapride din sila. naiicp ko nga baka pride nalang yun ky Rhea kaya pinagpipilitan kasi kahit magkasama kami. away mayat maya.

di ko din alam pano iopen up ulit sa parents ko. kasi namanhikan kami. but nasabi ko na sa ate ko. but still. same response nakukuha ko. sinabi ko na din im sad and depressed and will never be able to smile a genuine one. cause thats how i really feel. wala.

try ko ulit makipagusap. and also ky Rhea baka sakaling mag kaintindihan. di ko pa alam pano ko sabhin. mejo my pag ka violent reaction parati kasi. once nag usap dun. hindi siya kumakalma and angered kaagad.

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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #21 on: January 06, 2014, 08:15:05 am »
there is this movie / teleserye scene

yung mayaman ns inlove sa mahirap tapos yung nagka baby sila

its either mayaman yung lalake nabuntis nya yung babae tapos ayaw nung parents ng lalake kasi mahirap yung babae

o mayaman yung babae at baliw na baliw sya sa lalake na hindi naman mayaman pero hindi naman mahal nung lalake yung babae kasi may ibng gusto yung lalake

ikaw yung combination ng story, paano mo nabuntis si Rhea kung di mo mahal?

is it a one night stand? Fubu ba kayo?

and for 6 years minahal mo si Mae pero di sya kilala ng parents mo?


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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #22 on: January 06, 2014, 08:46:38 am »
asa end na kami ng relationship that time but were still doing the deed. last deed namen.1 more mos naghiwalay na kmishe got pregnant.sinabi niya nun 2 mos na siyang delay. pinagusapan namen i work out yung rel for the baby. but for 1 and haf year. eh hindi padin nag work out. yup. hindi nila siya kilala. sa province ako. sa manila si mae. dun ako nag aral sa manila. hindi nila alam kasi ayaw nila ako mag gf ng iba that time. nalaman nila after 6 mos na kame ni mae. naghiawalay kami for a mos. pero nag balikan din. di alam ng parents ko. then nun mga 3 years n kami. nalaman nila ulit. pinagsasabhian ako at pinagbabawalan. pero i really loved her. so un

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« Reply #23 on: January 06, 2014, 09:22:07 am »
TS, pasawsaw ha? Mukhang may pagkamasunurin ka yata sa mga parents mo ah. Maganda yan pero don't let them control you, matanda ka na at kung nagpapa-control ka sa parents mo maging miserable ang buhay mo dahil ang gusto mong gawin at di nila gusto, gagawin mo ng patago.

Tama na yang pagdedepend mo sa sinasabi ng parents mo.  Wag kang lumayas sa place mo, ipakita mo sa lahat ng tao sa probinsya mo na may panindigan ka rin. Idaan mo sa legal matters yan as what our ka-espiyas said, pag di matanggap sa family mo, maghanap ka ng bahay na malapit sa inyo tapos dalhin mo si mae dyan. In time, pagnakita nila na masaya ka sa desisyon mo, matatnggap rin nila yan.

Stand on the right thing to do instead of often becoming preoccupied in doing things which keeps everyone around you comfortable.

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Re: i need help badly. im so desperate and about to do crazy thing.
« Reply #24 on: January 06, 2014, 09:56:41 am »
thanks for you're reply. some of it hit me hard. i really need to be more mature and face my problem. hindi takasan. i guess i should take my stand. ill talk to Rhea muna. tel her the truth. then sa parents ko. watever sabihin nila. im off sa lugar namen. kung hindi maging maaus usapan namen ni Rhea i guess no choice but legal ways.

masurin in some extent lang. troubled din yung family ko sa sakit. kaya i stayed here nun sinabi nila but i told them nothing will change. sana maging maaus usapan namen ni Rhea at siya nadin ang tumigil sa pagpilit. kasi saglit ko palang ulit nakasama. maya maya away.mas malapit din kasi sakin ung anak namen. mas gusto katabi ung yaya kesa kanya. pero mas prefer niya pag ako katabi. kaya nagagalit siya. ang ayaw ko lang din pag away or in bad terms kami yung bata ang pinagbubuntungan minsan.

di ko rin siya maintindihan. pinipilit kasal pero lagi nkikipagaway at away sasabahin niya wag na pakasal tpos sabihin ko daw sa parents niya.bahala daw ako.

thanks for the slap sir Bolero. and for youre advice to.

at sa mga ibang spies. hopefully maging maaus ang usapan. mejo malaki at kilalang family kasi sila at mapride. same din ung clan ko. known but now my family.