nothing good really comes out from this kind of relationship. if this still continues, most probably at least one of you may end up dead. Im sorry threadstarter but you urself admitted to have started this affair for your satisfaction. You were never a solution to the woman's marriage problems. What you did is that you complicated both your life. I don't know if its worth it all, i mean what u have is based on a lie and it destroyed her marriage. Thinking about it, don't you think ur the one being used here? (personally, i dont really mind so long as shes single)
There's really one solution here. Give her up. Just don't think about the emotions. Emotions rarely get you anywhere in life, in fact, they are the major deterrents in our lives. She does not love you anyways. Sex doesn't mean i love you. Being lovey dovey with each other doesnt mean i love you either. You may have loved her but thats no longer important. If she really have loved you, she should have done the proper way, annulment with her husband. She really just needed someone to express her pent up emotions and urges which her husband could not satisfy. And you were the willing victim.
Give this up bro, ur still young. Don't waste it on her.
PS: ( you cant stand the thought of her having sex with her husband? Well newsflash brother, he has the right and you dont....)