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greenjoseph:
Closing Cycles

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on
staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles,
shutting doors, ending chapters - whatever name we give it, what
matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have
finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did
you leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a
long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long
time
wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take
another step until you find out why certain things that were so
important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like
that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone
involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your
children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning
over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad
seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not
even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has
passed will not return: we cannot forever be children, late
adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents,
lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone
away and has not the least intention of coming back. Things pass, and
the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to
destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell
or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible
world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on
in our hearts - and getting rid of certain memories also means making
some room for other memories to take their place. Let things go.
Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and
sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect
your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your
love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program
over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a
certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that
are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date,
decisions that are always put off waiting for the "ideal moment."
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell
yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that
there was a time when you could live without that thing or that
person - nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may
sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but
simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change
the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you
were, and change into who you are.

f1stbench:
Changes never stop...these are open and close cycles...nice thought! Cheers!

greenjoseph:

--- Quote from: f1stbench on August 19, 2006, 05:22:15 am ---Changes never stop...these are open and close cycles...nice thought! Cheers!

--- End quote ---

thanks for taking time reading my post, sometimes people tend to overlook important points that are relevant to one's life...

mongol482:
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

This is very nice. Thanks.

greenjoseph:
You're welcome!  thanks also for appreciating this...

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