Topic: men are dogs

[-=Kurabo=-]

P.S.

tanung ko lang din sa iba considered ba na cheating yung pag bi-beerhouse (alam naman natin kung ano lang ang pakay ng lalake doon)?  

marami akong nakakausap na kaibigan na babae regarding this pero mostly sa kanila sagot nila na they considered it as cheating though iba naman open minded at naiintindihan to yun nga lang sa isang condition, wag silang papahuli

tinry ko ipaliwanag sa iba na tayong mga lalake may mga iba't ibang urges di por que nagbebeerhouse tayo ay ibig sabihin hindi na tayo satisfied sa kanila or di na mahal,yun nga lang they have to accept the the fact na kapag sila di pwede kasi aminin na natin hindi fair ang society natin with regards to gender

ask ko lang kay TS kung ano mas pipiliin niya, namomokpok asawa niya or magkaroon ng relasyon sa iba? hindi sa jinjustify ko na tama gawain ng mister mo pero at least be understandable enough

[UrAnus]

Tama si kalbo.  Try asking kung may "Pagkukulang ka ba?".

at tama din si jestch:
"Most girls are generally nagger, self-centered, unwilling to open their perspective and always brings up dead issues entangled with new problems...This are the most hated character that men looses control and look for an outlet."

Kung nagloloko ang isang bagay di ba usually yun may "sira".

Hindi naman pork'et nagkamali na sa ganung bagay ang tao "masama".  Ito ay pagkakamali.  Ang hindi lng dapat mangyari is baka mahulog ang loob nya sa babae.    Mahirap lng baka mahulog ang loob ni lalake. Iba na yung usapan kng mahal nya yung babae.    

Ibang lalake nagsti-stick sa isang babae or prosti for several reason.  One possible reason is type nya yung babae Or pwede rin na alam nyang "MALINIS" yung babae at walang sakit.  


As i've said, mga lalake "nagkakamali" and we don't "cheat"  dahil lng gus2 lng namin.

[kalbo20]

TS, maganda din nadiscover mo yung espiya no?  nakakakuha ka ng answer/advices na unbiased at pranka..

Maging active kana din dito.

 

[jsayala]

di naman kasi maghahanap ng iba si sir kung wala kang pagkukulang mam with all due respect tumingin k na ba sa harap ng salamin nakedly? if not try mokung wala kang makitang physical odds then it maybe the way you threat him kasi alam niyo naman po its not always must be you that should be taken care like a baby men also do need care and attention.

i mentioned kanina- not to brag but i look very much ok.  He said, Im good in bed. He even told me na relationship is not about sex, its not how I look.  I think he's looking for something more, masakit man aminin baka he doesnt feel the "love" that we used to have.

Baka nasanay lang ako na ako yung pampered parati.

Pero wala ba talagang lalaki na AAMIN?  yun lang naman eh- ayoko lang na I look stupid.  SORRY lang ang gusto ko marinig.

[jsayala]

TS, maganda din nadiscover mo yung espiya no?  nakakakuha ka ng answer/advices na unbiased at pranka..

Maging active kana din dito.

 

nice to hear din views from men. Im really not open to the fact na kailangan kong intindihin yung pagkakamali nya dahil baka ako ang may kulang... but based sa inputs na mga guys.. parang ganun na nga. ang unfair lang.

[kalbo20]

nice to hear din views from men. Im really not open to the fact na kailangan kong intindihin yung pagkakamali nya dahil baka ako ang may kulang... but based sa inputs na mga guys.. parang ganun na nga. ang unfair lang.

life is always unfair. ako nga pinanganak ng mahirap kaya ako nagabroad eh. unfair diba?

anyway, u maybe getting us wrong pero our point is, try to look on both angles.. not just your husband's fault.  Try looking into you also.. example, pwede mong gawing diskarte is, change first.. tapos look at the reaction of your husband.. tapos pag di nag effect, try another solution.. trial and error.. kasi nga, hindi naman natin mapinpoint talaga dito yung root cause of the mistake..

Were not saying na kelangan mo cyang intindihin.. kelangan lang open minded ka na maaaring meron ka din lapses..

[kalbo20]

life is always unfair. ako nga pinanganak ng mahirap kaya ako nagabroad eh. unfair diba?

anyway, u maybe getting us wrong pero our point is, try to look on both angles.. not just your husband's fault.  Try looking into you also.. example, pwede mong gawing diskarte is, change first.. tapos look at the reaction of your husband.. tapos pag di nag effect, try another solution.. trial and error.. kasi nga, hindi naman natin mapinpoint talaga dito yung root cause of the mistake..

Were not saying na kelangan mo cyang intindihin.. kelangan lang open minded ka na maaaring meron ka din lapses..

At meron din talaga cyang mali.. kasi kung kulang pala yung binibigay mo, bakit hindi cya nagsabi...diba?

[FerminaDaza]

Huwell,sana TS,magkaroon talaga kyu ng mister mo ng conversation sa mga ngyari-wak k n mg focus if aamin or ayaw umamin...stating the obvious nakausap mo n nga yun girlaloo...you really should talk about it s hubby mo and don't let him delude you that everything was your mistake kya sya ng cheat-duh! Cheating is cheating -period. Regardless anu man issues s pgsasama nyu,di makatarungan mag cheat kn lng. Nasa syo TS,you have to put the brteraks and take a look on the real situation.If he cares about you,He should STOP cheating.Don't let him get away w/ it OR he wud do it ad infintum to KAPUT.

No woman deserves that kind of pain and humiliation.You are worthy of respect as well as your children. I can understand we do mistake and been tempted but If someone who did wrong still insist he did nothing wrong ,worse keep on doing it---you better give a kick on that bad dog!

You can have all male pov's but there's something inside you that can help you even more...you just need to trust your instinct @};-

[xxx]

Pero wala ba talagang lalaki na AAMIN?  yun lang naman eh- ayoko lang na I look stupid.  SORRY lang ang gusto ko marinig.

wala po mam... naka hardcode na yan sa utak naming mga lalake....
kahit nahuli mo pang nakapasok sa loob yung putotoy nya...

[kalbo20]

i mentioned kanina- not to brag but i look very much ok.  He said, Im good in bed. He even told me na relationship is not about sex, its not how I look.  I think he's looking for something more, masakit man aminin baka he doesnt feel the "love" that we used to have.

Baka nasanay lang ako na ako yung pampered parati.

Pero wala ba talagang lalaki na AAMIN?  yun lang naman eh- ayoko lang na I look stupid.  SORRY lang ang gusto ko marinig.

Meron naman lalaking umaamin Ma'am.. ako umamin ako.  I was man enough to apologize and face the consequences.. Meron pa din ganun.  Realization lang ang kelangan ko para umamin.. 0:-)

[kalbo20]

Meron naman lalaking umaamin Ma'am.. ako umamin ako.  I was man enough to apologize and face the consequences.. Meron pa din ganun.  Realization lang ang kelangan ko para umamin.. 0:-)

Pero nung nahuli lang. heheheh

[aubreysmile]

Your issue is very very common, 1st thing that you need do is to watch the movie entitled "Hall Pass" staring owen wilson. 100% you'll be fine if you use the same approach. Libre moko mcdo during his 1 wik no rules hehe

[tiberionx]

males are polygamous by nature, sad to say

kumbaga sa pagkain nakakasawa na araw araw adobo, gusto din ng sinigang o tinola pa minsan minsan

as blunt as it may sound, thats how it is.

[eyecool_04]

wow, here i am. an old member of espiya but always in a lurker mode...lol

hindi na sana ako magcocoment pero mukhanG makakatulong kay ts experience ko..( ma'am Fermina Daza, ito na naman ako, based on my experience ulit...)   



I don't know how to start but to the Topic Starter, mapapakatotoo po ulit ako at tamaan ang tatamaan.


Halos lahat naman po ng married man ay nagdadaan sa ganiton situation. but it doesn't mean na hindi namin mahal an wife namin. sabi ng iban co-spies natin, may mga reason. and number  one is a bed performance. second is atention and the third one is pag-aaruga.

If sinasabi mo TS na magaling ka naman in bed, baka naman nagkukulang ka sa ibang bagay. like atention, pagmamahal at pag-aaruga.? just focus on that three things and make an adjustment. Hindi mo na kailangan pang maging detective at mag-imbestiga, hindi lang kasi makakatulong yan.ang mahalaga alam mo na ginawa ng asawa mo and all you have to do is to know kung saan ka may pagkukulang at kung saan saan ka dapat mag-adjust.


tapos tsaka nyo po pag-usapan ng mahinahon. pa-usapan nyo po kung ano ba mga plano nya sa pamilya nya at sana wa nyang hayaan na dumating sa point na malaman n mga anak nyo cause maapektuhan lan po sila. ipiliwanag nyo din po sa kanya na kailangan maging cleanly living kayo at walang ibang likuan para mapalaki nyo po ng matuwid mga chikiting nyo. Don't forget, si GOD.....!
alam ko masakit lang sa ego mo kasi sa bayarang babae nya ginawa yun..you know what TS, mas masakit kung hindi sya sa bayarang babae pumatol. pinili lang nyang magbayad para makuha ang bagay na yun.pampalipas ba..kaysa makiparelasyon sa iba..and that was i called cheated. Sana na-get mo po yung point ko..



TS, ang sagwa ng title.hindi naman ganun yun...lol

sa mga co-spies ko, mga dude, tama lahat n sinabi nyo.  :salute: 

[eyecool_04]

OT: sensya na, mali-mali na type ko.naloloko kasi keyboard ko!

[melecee]

I'm a dog too.
decent type.

[w88_108]

tutal nakaka-usap mo na din ung prosti ay mag-ingat pa din kayo para hindi kayo matulad dito:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1352824/
baka naman yung ibang sinasabi na nung prosti ay exaggerated na at hindi na totoo..

marami na din ang nakapag-advice.. kaya wish ko na lang kayo na maging okay pa kayo..

[horny_bastard]

Men are dogs- I agree 100 %
I sense that you love your husband very much. pinaglalaban mo siya kahit nasaktan ka niya by trying to understand his actions or misdeeds, yung iba diyan, wouldn't even bother.

-I can relate to your predicament believe me, masuwerte si mister mo, dahil loyal at nag-iisip ang misis niya.
I have a hunch na you and your husband will get over this hurdle. 

from what i gather, almost perfect husband si mister bago mo siya nabuking right? I mean, has he ever been abusive sayo or your kids? nagkukulang ba siya sa "duties" niya sa iyo in bed? hindi na ba siya malambing sa iyo? Did he stop caring for you and your children? yung monthly "family budget" mo ba ay nabawasan o naiba? nag iba ba ang treatment niya sa mga anak ninyo? does he spend less time with the family? has he ever hinted to you na he was unhappy sexually?

"men are from mars, women are from venus" - very much unlike women, we men tend to look at sex in a kinda sporty libog lang way, I mean, we men can totally distinguish between having sex and making love. with women= iba right? with feelings palagi ang girls. Kahit di namin kakilala basta willing - exercise lang  not personal baga.

His relationship with the hooker-i think is purely for his personal gratification- walang love yun, if you think meron kang fault or kinalaman dun sa behavour niya na yan , no. not your fault, he cheated on you by employing a prosti= Im praying na he wore protection. Kabahan ka kung may kabungisngisan siya sa phone or text- at madalang na kayo magkita.
- since you are a couple- siyempre involved ka in -part. somehow kasi you two failed to COMMUNICATE.  We men put our wives on pedestals , iba si misis, ginagalang namin ang babaeng pinakasalan namin at ina ng aming mga anak. Siguro may sexual fantasies siya na sa tingin niya e, baka ma offend ka, or baka naman may "fav act" siya na ayaw mo gawin for example- do you "swallow"? some guys feel insulted if you dont, some do not care. when was the last time you fucked his brains out? Are you conservative with your lovemaking- are you Bi-curious? hearing those words will surely drive him nuts. Do you still share fantasies together? sometimes kasi busy tayo lahat with our chores, napapabayaan natin yung pinaka importante- our other half. Mali na because he is bitin, na i-procure niya yun relief niya from a diffrent supplier-or vendor.

Like I said earlier, I admire your willingness to fight for your man, im sure nagsisisi ng matindi si mister mo. Mahal ka ng mister mo, he made a big mistake, now what?  Surprise him, gather your anger and show him who's boss, fuck him silly until he sez ur his momma/ remind him that you can be a biatch in bed too.. then have him buy you a gift worth 6k heheheh! Basta rock his world. He will never stray again.

- Good luck po.. sana lahat ng misis katulad mo rin magmahal
 

[pzychoe]

   It's not always about sex.... Girls from KTV bars / massage parlors have their own charm and knows most of males weaknesses. Sex is for some men is just a bonus, what really makes those girls irresistible is how they can please a man just by talking and teasing. And if they can consistently deliver that, hanap-hanapin talaga sila ng kahit sinong lalake. Don't think to much of what made your man cheat. Think instead of how can you make him stop permanently (BY WINNING HIM BACK, and not by just by forcing them to stop).

   TALK TO YOUR PARTNER. You've been together for 12 yrs... You should know by now what makes him tick. At wag ka masyado ma praning... sa'yo parin ang uwi nyan. Hindi naman siguro para ilaban ng hiwalayan ng asawa mo yung babae nya right...?

[Bolster]

Tanong ko lang bakit ka meron espiya account? sabay ba kayo ng asawa mo nag checheck dito ng updates or ikaw lang?

About sa topic, masakit talaga sa babae yan. pero sana sa 12 years nyo pagsasama kilala mo na kung pano ang buhay ng lalake. Madali kami kumagat sa temptasyon. May kilala ko sobra ganda ng asawa o gf pero dumating pa din sa point na nambabae pa din ung lalake. kahit nasa babae na lahat, looks, brains, galing sa bed, darating pa rin sa point na mambabae ang lalake. in general lang to ha. pero kung ako sayo, win him back. tama sabi nila. instead of asking him to stop. ibalik nyo lang  ang kilig factor. ibalik nyo lang ang thrill ng love making. and last, be his wife, best friend, a shoulder to cry on. lahat na. communication lang.

[HeLL_Vhoy]

males are polygamous by nature, sad to say

kumbaga sa pagkain nakakasawa na araw araw adobo, gusto din ng sinigang o tinola pa minsan minsan

as blunt as it may sound, thats how it is.

Now we are dancing in the same tune 

[gardov]

hehe. na ask ko na yun... pero matalino si gurl. She said - she'll tell me pero pahiramin ko daw sya ng 30k. Feeling close diba?  

Im still disturbed pa naman kaya i dont go near my husband- nandidiri ako if naaalala ko.

haha. nablackmail pa. marami namang paraan para matuto ng mga bagong moves. sa internet dami dami dyan...

also, hindi nakakatulong kung lalayo ka pa lalo sa asawa mo, e di mas lalong lumapit yun sa iba.

[meteor freak]

i mentioned kanina- not to brag but i look very much ok.  He said, Im good in bed. He even told me na relationship is not about sex, its not how I look.  I think he's looking for something more, masakit man aminin baka he doesnt feel the "love" that we used to have.

Baka nasanay lang ako na ako yung pampered parati.

Pero wala ba talagang lalaki na AAMIN?  yun lang naman eh- ayoko lang na I look stupid.  SORRY lang ang gusto ko marinig.
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Maam sorry to say this pero opinion ko lang po ito bilang isang lalake, kung umamin po yung mister nyo with deep sincerity sa nagawa nya pagkakamali ibig sabihin nun tatapusin na nya yung pakikipagkita dun sa prosti, pero the way na hindi sya umaamin kahit na nabuko nyo na sya is not because of EGO, mas bantayan nyo po sya mabuti or should i say kabahan na po kayo dahil malamang magpatuloy ang kanyang kalokohan. Totoo po na mahal kayo ng asawa nyo at hindi nya kayo iiwanan. Minsan kahit anong sarap ng litson nakakaumay pa din kung yun lang ang ulam na nakahain, hahanap at hahanap ka ng atsara para mas lalo sumarap ang pagkain mo, ganyan ang ginawa ng mister mo kelangan nya kumain ng atsara para mawala yung umay nya sayo, sorry to say that maam pero sa tingin ko yun ang katotohanan.

Baka po makatulong itong payo ko maam para matapos ang pagkahumaling ng mister mo sa babae nya, bakit hindi nyo po subukan higitan o pantayan kung ano man yung nakikita ng asawa mo sa babae nya i mean the way she look, kung sexy sya magpa sexy ka din baka kase sa sobrang pag aasikaso mo sa kanya at sa mga anak mo ay napapabayaan mo na ang sarili mo, kahit anong galing mo sa kama kung sa tuwing makikita nya ang katawan mo at hahawakan nya ito ay hindi ganun ka ganda kahit na sobrang mahal ka nya hahanap at hahanap sya ng iba para ma satisfy yung needs nya when it comes to sex na siyang nakita nya dun sa prosti kaya naka 4 times sya dun at maaaring maulit pa hanggat hindi mo naaayos at nabibigyan ng solusyon ang problema. Sabi nga nila life begins at forty at ang lalake mas lalong lumilibog pa when they reach fifty kaya po sana  maayos na yung problema nyo habang mas maaga. Good Luck po!

Lahat po ng nasabi ko ay base lang sa sarili kong opinion kung may nasabi man ako na nakasakit sa inyong kalooban at kung may nilabag man ako ay pagpasensyahan nyo na po. Maraming salamat.

[morrismo]

Talk with your husband... Isipin ang kapakanan ng mga anak.... Learn from the past, whatever decisions you make dapat ready ka sa mga consequences...

[swaaat]

Uhh, hi. first thing's first, welcome to espiya

alright, pretty much, it's all gonna go down to the word "temptation". like what they've all said, men are polygamous and tends to look for something new, exciting, and unfortunately, better. although i'm not saying na you're no longer the type pero kasi di ba nga sabi nila; "masarap ang bawal"

sa tingin ko lang ah, you're husband is just looking for ways to pass time. i mean, he still goes home right? masama kung nasa point na kayo na you rarely see him at the house. iba lang talaga kasi yung excitement na may kasama kang iba aside from those who you're usually with.

take time to talk madam. wag po daanin sa sigawan at init ng ulo. magkamatayan na hindi aamin si husband (1. wag aamin, 2. pag nahuli, wag parin aamin, 3. pag pinilit, isisi sa iba ang kasalanan). pray to god na sana he'll come to his senses na hindi maganda sa relationship and status ng family nyo ang nagawa or ginagawa nya.