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Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« on: January 14, 2016, 09:01:04 pm »
Kapatid, eto ang situwasyon ko.

Ako'y 29 taong gulang na. Nagtatrabaho na bilang senior manager ng isang maliit na research company, pero hindi pa nakakapagtapos ng kolehiyo. Napag-isipan kong bumalik sa pag-aaral, at ngayon 3 years na mula nung nagbalik ako sa university. Nung bumalik ako, nagkataong puro babae ang naka-enroll sa current course ko (seriously, hindi ko alam kung bakit ganun). At halos lahat sila maganda (hindi ko rin alam kung bakit ganun). Aware sila sa edad ko, pero friendly naman sila lahat sa akin. Hindi naman ako pangit sa tingin nila, kase may times na madikit sila sa akin, at nagkakabiruan din ng crush sa pagitan namin, pero ayoko seryosohin kase baka naman biruan nga lang talaga't magmukha lang akong tanga. Minsan nakakalimutan nila na may kasama silang lalaki, kaya nakikita ko talaga sila in their natural state ng pakikisama sa isa't isa. Ang feeling ko tuloy, parang sa all-girls school ako naka enroll. Pero for 3 years hindi ko talaga sinubukan lumapit sa kahit sino sa kanila, kase ayokong masira tiwala at respeto nila sa akin.

Pero meron akong isang classmate na di ko maiwasan titigan. Sa lahat ng magagandang classmates ko, sya ang pinaka natitipuhan ko. 19 pa lang sya, turning 20 this year, NBSB. Focused sa studies. Friends kami, pero hindi kami ganun ka-close compared sa iba. Di ko pa sya nasusubukang kausapin sa text or social media. Hindi ko alam kung mahal ko sya, palagay ko hindi pa, pero sobrang attracted ako sa kanya, and palagay ko click naman kami kung hindi lang ako umiiwas sa pagdikit masyado. Hindi malayong ma-fall ako sa kanya at this rate.

Nakakatakot dahil hindi ko alam ang sasabihin ng mga kaklase ko kung lalapit ako sa kanya. Natatakot din ako sa magiging reaction ng magulang nya. Hindi sila mayaman, kaya talagang importanteng makapagtapos sya sa pag-aaral. Nakakatakot isipin na ako pa ang magiging dahilan ng gulo sa buhay nya. At syempre, hindi ko rin alam kung magiging issue yung generation gap namin. Baka hindi sya maging masaya kung sakali.

Sa edad kong to, palagay ko hindi na dapat ako nagpapantasya na magka-syota ng kolehiyala. Pero ayoko naman ideny ang nararamdaman kong attraction sa kanya.

Kaya eto't lumalapit ako sa inyo, nang makahingi naman ng konting advice. :) Salamat sa pagbasa ng aking mumunting post.

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #1 on: January 14, 2016, 09:06:27 pm »
tirahin mo na baka matira pa ng iba.

19 na naman e. hindi na bata yan.

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #2 on: January 14, 2016, 09:41:33 pm »
Si Bossing Vic ay 61, si Pauleen ay 27.. yan na lang isipin mo.. kung gusto ka din nung girl, wala namang problema yun.. pero hintayin mo muna syang makagraduate para walang masabi yung iba.. toast::

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #3 on: January 14, 2016, 11:28:27 pm »
tama... at ang dalawang ito-- mga ehemplo ng tunay na pagmamahalan (daw) ka kabila ng malalayong agwat ng kanilang edad. basta gusto at mahal ka rin ng babae walang problema dun basta nasa hustong gulang na siya, go and fight for it!



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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2016, 01:05:56 am »
My girlfriend is 17 and I'm 27. Age gap man pero we can't deny the fact na love is a big factor para magclick yung relationship. She likes older men. I like younger women. We're both family oriented. Both trying to be bread winners (she's young pero she's already working na din). And the list goes on.

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2016, 03:22:17 am »
Nowadays naman hinde na issue ang age, basta i prove mo lang na worth it ka sa kanya sa mga friends nya lalo na sa family nya yan ang ingatan mo.

let her finish her studies pag naka graduate na wala ng masasabi sayo ang parents nya..

i remember ganyan din reaction namin nung may nanliligaw sa friend and classmate namin na 10 year age gap... sabi namin matanda na!

pero in the end sila rin ang nag katuluyan talaga.

and eventually everything will fall into place so don't worry...

 importante ok yung relation nyo, believe me walang magagawa iyan mga pintas na yan mag sasawa sila sa critism sa inyo lalo na compatible and masaya naman kayong parehas...

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #6 on: January 15, 2016, 07:24:22 am »
may nabasa ako dati  to compute for age ng pwedeng mapangasawa ng isang lalaki dapat daw age of guy  divide by 2 plus two, but consider dapat atleast minimum 18 si girl.  so kung 29 ka divided by 2= 14.5 + 2 = 16.5 yrs old. so at minimum kung 18 si girl ok lang na maging kayo...

parents ko 10 years ang gap. ang naging drawback lang dahil bata napangasawa ng tatay ko yun 8 tuloy kaming magkakapatid.  ::lmao ::lmao ::lmao ::lmao ::lmao

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #7 on: January 15, 2016, 10:01:05 am »
tang ina, normal na normal yan. ang pagmamahal wala sa edad,totoo naman na may mag urges tayo though meron tayong mga traits that operates beyond these innate urges.alam mo ba na sa latest studies sa neuroscience sa mga extreme cases ng psychosis particularly schizophrenia eh meron daw part ng consciousness natin na pilit kumakawala or nag m militate sa schizophrenic state na to, i believe that's the our immaterial self or the soul, this is not pseudo science, this is indeed genuine and empirical science, and how is this relevant sa post mo? wala lang gusto ko lang i share na bukod don sa rektang kantot lang na hanap natin eh merong mas mataas don.

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #8 on: January 15, 2016, 10:12:58 am »
agree with all of them... i don't see anything wrong with that as long as she is in the right age already... let her graduate and then say what you feel... who knows, she might be the best graduation gift you may get...

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #9 on: January 15, 2016, 10:55:47 am »
Brad, wala sa edad yan dapat nga you should take advantage of your age kasi most of the young adults (women) are looking or seeking for serious relationship, and makukuha lang nila mostly yang serious relationship na yan sa much older and matured guys. you're not that old sa gap nyo. diskartehan mo na. goodluck.

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #10 on: January 15, 2016, 10:59:56 am »
take this "anal"ogy, kunwari nagkagusto sakin yung matandang huklubang nanay ni kenji kulet at 100 years old ang tanda nya saken at maayos naman syang makisama, would there be any reason for me to dump that senile old woman? of course not. mamahalin ko ang nanay ni kenji kulet at titirahin ko araw araw tanda ng pagmamahal music::

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #11 on: January 17, 2016, 07:56:21 am »
Salamat sa advice, mga kapatid.

Dahil sa lakas ng loob na nakuha ko mula sa inyo, itutuloy ko na :). Wish me luck!

Babalitaan ko kayo sa mangyayari in a few months.

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #12 on: January 17, 2016, 08:22:18 am »
isipin mo na lang bro sa panahon ngayon kinakasal na mga bading ngayon at ang problema mo 10years age gap sa babae?

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #13 on: January 17, 2016, 06:54:58 pm »
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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #14 on: January 17, 2016, 09:20:58 pm »
Salamat sa advice, mga kapatid.

Dahil sa lakas ng loob na nakuha ko mula sa inyo, itutuloy ko na :). Wish me luck!

Babalitaan ko kayo sa mangyayari in a few months.

Alagaan mo lang be her bestfriend..support and let her experience maturity.

Yung normal process para maging indepedent sya at hindi maging problem girlfriend sa future..cguro by 20 or 21th nya baka ready na kayo mag level up.


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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #15 on: January 18, 2016, 09:02:04 am »
As always... Timing is a b*tch  ;D

Tomo sila, be friended and get to know each other muna and see, if may *common interests* din kyu. Sometimes kasi dun may conflict pag medyo malaki yun age gap. Pag wala kasi masyadong compatibility  mas magulo ,mas madaming friction ,at di parehas ng direction.

whatevs, don't over think & Don't worry much coz love and vulnerability CAN'T be separated. You gotta open up and put yourself out there :) Best of luck!







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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #16 on: January 18, 2016, 11:18:47 am »
just do it ts... 10 years gap is nothing once you are an adult already... goodluck...

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #17 on: January 18, 2016, 06:29:40 pm »
As always... Timing is a b*tch  ;D

Tomo sila, be friended and get to know each other muna and see, if may *common interests* din kyu. Sometimes kasi dun may conflict pag medyo malaki yun age gap. Pag wala kasi masyadong compatibility  mas magulo ,mas madaming friction ,at di parehas ng direction.

whatevs, don't over think & Don't worry much coz love and vulnerability CAN'T be separated. You gotta open up and put yourself out there :) Best of luck!


tara kape at kwento mo pa sa akin to ng mahaba..

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #18 on: January 19, 2016, 02:52:24 am »
tara kape at kwento mo pa sa akin to ng mahaba..

topics like this. haha finger4u


hey brotha! I prefer water...water is sexual & sensual. kwento ko syu sa bathtub! TOINKS  ;D

howdy na Johnny Depp ng E.Republic?!  :D

@topic ,KASI  even if it's the right person but at the  wrong time...it's still the wrooong person . See, Relationships are 99% TIMING. So we need to consider some thoughts...Are you in the right place? Are they? Both people have to be ready for a relationship Or else it's not going to werk out...(which is why ,remember again, you shouldn't take rejection *personally--it isn't about you)




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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #19 on: January 19, 2016, 06:14:03 am »
siguraduhin mo rin na hindi lang libog yan.try mo sya picturan den magjakul ka sa cr habang tinitignan pic nya pagkatapos mo labasan pakiramdaman mo kung may pagtingin kapa sa kanya, kung meron pa ibig sabihin malaki chance na mahal mo nga siya

kasi madalas ang kalibugan nagdidisguise yan na pagmamahal, akala mosobrang spesyal niya pero pagkatapos mo majorpet parang hindi mo na kilala

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #20 on: January 19, 2016, 06:45:54 am »
 18 si girl 38 ako nung makilala ko sya, naging kami before sya mag-19 what happen next? di ko alam, ang importante brader  gawin mo kung ano nasa isip at nararamdaman mo ingat lang baka tahimik at inosente ang dating pero player pala   ::laffman
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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #21 on: January 19, 2016, 08:11:29 pm »
Go for it . . .  and good luck . .  Im sure ang intentions mo naman ay pure . .  hindi mo naman siya siguro ililigaw ng landas . .  kung mahal mo na go . . 

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Re: Falling in love with a younger girl (she's 19, I'm 29)
« Reply #22 on: January 19, 2016, 10:30:07 pm »
Kung di mo susubukan paano mo malalaman? At ingatan mo yung ganyan since NBSB, di pa niyan naranasan magexpect at masaktan.