Almost 3 months pa lang kami ng irog ko, ang dami naming common things and we get along with each other quickly and one thing in common is that pareho kami gusto na mag settle down. So binalewala namin kung gaano pa lang kami ka tagal at nag decide kami to be engaged, nagpaalam na kami sa both parents although wala pang formal date, we just informed them that we will be getting married.
I expected na dadaan parin kami sa petty things ng relationship, sadly the hardest part would be the TRUST part, lalo na kung minsan kahit maliliit na bagay nabubuking ko siya na nagsisinungaling. Although maliit lang na bagay ang pinag sisinungalingan niya, I cant help but think why? And nagdududa ako baka may tinatago siya.
Here are some situations:
Di ako masyado particular sa celphone ng partner ko, pero maraming beses ko syang nakita na habang naglalakad kami tapos kung nasa likod ko sya tapos pag bigla akong napalingon habang nagttxt sya. Bigla siyang magugulat. One time
I confronted her and asked for her celphone at tingnan ko sino katxt nya, biglang nagpanic and then para bang may dinedelete. Yun nag away kami bakit ko daw ginawa yun, sabi niya privacy thing daw.
Another is, may previous FB account siya na dineactivate na namin kasi its a past thing na daw. Tapos one day, nakita ko sa FB news na nag change ng profile pic yung account na yun, nag duda ako so tinanong ko siya kung siya ba yung nag activate tapos nag change ng profile pic. Sabi niya hindi daw siya, pero alam ko na ako at siya lang ang may alam ng password. Then nag away ulit kami, tapos ni login ko yung current account niya sa FB, dun nakita at nabasa ko in real time, nag cha chat sila ng friend niyang girl, she is asking for a help to cover her up, na gusto niya mag post sa wall niya yung friend niya na siya ang gumalaw sa FB ng gf ko.
haaaay anong masasabi niyo mga spies? specially the lady/girl espiyas out there?
Mahirap talaga pag nag seseryoso na baka dun ka pa maloko, at kung kelan ka pa nag seseryoso dun mo pa mas mapapansin ang kamalian ng partner mo. Palagi na lang niyang nirarason ang privacy, pero di ba kung gusto niyo ng magpakasal iisa na lang ang privacy niyo.
hi bro,ka-toxic sa work di me maka-porma at makapag-espiya tuloy
hays,didn't we all know women can be a jerk too unless proven other wise...
"If marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment,it should be OK to take your time to know
the right person."i do believe that a relationship shouldn't be claustrophobic.it's also healthy to have / want your "ME" time
a space alone,where you can still do your own stuff that is also helpful for individual growth.
masasabi ko lang po,before you jump into marriage,buy some time to get to know each other more po.
yun 3 months pa lang kyu getting to know stage pa din po yan,and i guess mas i-aim nyu at this point
yun exclusivity / the period where in you both made a point na kayu na at wala na kyung iba pang i-eentertain.
when you've proven your exclusivity,that's the time you move into engagement period.
so now,nagkaka-problema maybe si gf ay medyo madami pang taga-hanga po which she can't hardly
resist-who knows?
maybe better bro to let your relationship goes through a period of time before you tied the knot.
one more thing bro,you are a man,and a man wants to feel manly,needed & admire and sana
now pa lang medyo feel mo na nabibigay naman ni gf yan.
personally ako bro,im a self confessed FLIRT,but i see to it that if i'm with my bf,our time together is worth
spending for because I'll make him feel & treat him the best and i won't take him for granted.
sabe ko nga :
Nobody can disturb me / as to take someone calls / text especially when i'm sitting down with my boyfriend.sabe nga din ni pareng Benjamin Franklin :
keep your eye wide open before marriage and half shut afterwards.
now bro,make a special date with your gf/fiancee,just be a matter of fact & share all your concern once & for all.
kasi,,,unless others know how we feel they cannot correct certain behaviors or know what kind of support we need.
again BE A MAN. WHEN A MAN IS IN LOVE HE'S NOT TRYING TO SHARE HIS GIRL WITH ANYBODY---period
@ bros & sis do remember :
Commitment is not something that anyone who is normal signs up to after the first few dates.Falling in love is an addictive,intoxicating,exciting & head spinning chemistry affair.your body is flooded w/ feel-good neurotransmitter like dopamine,serotonin & feeling your in top of the world.BUT STAYING IN LOVE,YOU NEED SOMETHING MORE THAN CHEMISTRY,MEMORIES TO KEEP YOU TOGETHER
(yan po ang dahilan why o why may whirlwind kind of relationship at mag jump kara karaka---so mas wise to buy
sometime po-BOW!)
